an adolescent or teenage daughter the right way is a big responsibility on
parents, especially on mothers. A mother has to prepare the girl and guide her
through the changes as she enters adolescence. Here are a few tips for parenting
a teenage daughter.
Parenting an adolescent girl is quite
different from parenting
a teenage boy. This is because, the difference in nature and attribute between
men and women gets pronounced mainly during this very stage and the teenage
girls are more likely to get overwhelmed by them. If you suddenly find your
little girls who was blissful in twirling around in her flowery skirt at one
moment and climbing up the balcony or the tree in your orchard with equal zest,
become silent and withdrawn, it means something has changed. Well, she has
entered adolescence. Behaviour change from a little to a large extent is
nothing unnatural, but the girl sure needs a bit of support to deal with
Causes of Behavioural Changes in a
All the changes that you notice in your teenage
daughter is caused by major shifts in the hormonal balances. From the physical
point of view, the girl has entered puberty. So there will be some noticeable
changes in her body as well. As a parent and especially as a mother, you need
to guide the girl through the changes. It is better if you can prepare the girl
even before she enters adolescence.
But you can also do it when it has just
happened. Explain to her that the changes that she now perceives in her body
are normal as it is a part of physiology and everyone goes through it. Often it
is found that adolescent girls feel that they are alone going through these
changes and if they do not have a clear idea on them or lack support from
people around them, they feel somewhat victimised, and the later behavioural problems
gain their root.
Explain to her that the curves she is
developing, her enlarging breasts or the onset of periods is all but natural.
If this is carefully explained, the change in her emotional behaviour and state
will also be easier to deal with. In the adolescent period, the girls tend to
become extremely moody as the hormonal shifts cause mood swings, either get
withdrawn or turn aggressive, suffer from self doubt and lack of self esteem
along with eating and sleeping disorders. Here you need to be very careful in
raising your teenage daughter
as there is great possibility that if ignored, these temporary symptoms of
adolescence might turn into a serious depression.
Tips for Parenting a Teenage Daughter
quick look at the tips for parenting a
- Apart from being a mother, turn yourself into a friend of your daughter.
- Pay attention to her thoughts and feelings and give a patient hearing whenever she expresses herself, also encourage her to do so.
- Keep the lines of communication always open.
- Be casual in your approach, your daughter should feel comfortable in expressing herself and sharing her feelings with you.
- Let her express the fears of self doubt growing inside her without hesitation.
- Explain to her that this is nothing to be serious about as everyone, including her mother she has passed through this phase.
Listen to her sympathetically when she
shares a certain event in school, like why she was being stared at or treated
differently by the boys. Remember, if she knows what is causing the change, she
will be better equipped to deal with it. Do not be judgmental when you hear her
out or make the grave mistake of directing her to stay away from boys.
Teach her the biological development and
difference along with the importance of respecting individuality. This will
automatically condition her to face the real world and deal with situations
that you are afraid of as a mother.
Finally, instill self confidence in her
as you teach her to celebrate womanhood. Tell her that it is a challenge and a
way of life, where there is nothing to be hesitant or ashamed of. Encourage her
to continue with her regular activities and help her stay involved in some
activity or the other that she really enjoys.
Since the natural focus at this stage is
on the changes happening inside and around her, if she finds a suitable
distraction in saying, painting or music or even gardening, that is any
activity that she really enjoys, she will be better able to deal with
adolescence effectively. Meanwhile, never forget to compliment her on her good
qualities, talents and achievements.