A man, when he becomes a single parent to his
child due to loss of his wife or by his choice of becoming single parent
through adoption has to make many adjustments. Raising the child for a single
father is more difficult as the father has to play the role of both mother and
father. Here are some tips which will be of great help for single fathers, read
Single parent families usually have a working parent as the
sustenance of the family rests solely on the parent. When a man loses his wife
or partner or chooses to become a single
father through adoption,
there are a lot of matters that he needs to keep in mind while raising the
child. The situation can be stressful for both the father and the kid, as he
needs to work and simultaneously spend a lot of quality time with the child.
Tips for Single
Here are a few tips on how you can connect with your child,
which can help make life a little easier even in such situation:
Connecting and Bonding
Connecting and bonding
is a very important characteristic that you need to develop. Just as you do not
have your partner, you child does not have a mom, who is perhaps the person
that he needs most as a child. Children are a curious and paradoxical blend of
attributes. They are emotionally vulnerable as well as mentally strong enough
to face situations if guided properly.
You need to build situations where you can easily connect
with the child. After you come back after the day’s work, just sit on the couch
and share your experiences with the kid. Ask him what all he did and how was
his day. Talk, giggle and show that you care and are concerned about their well
being and happiness.
After some time discuss dinner and get ready to prepare it.
If your kid wants to follow you, take him along and continue with your
conversation. Children crave for attention and they feel the most dejected when
they feel ignored. These few minutes of bonding can assure them of your care
and they will love you for it.
The Special Time
The after-dinner time is equally special. You can spend this
time by simply talking to them or you can engage in some activity that your
child is interested in, like reading, singing or painting. If the child is a
bit older, you can also play a game or go for a leisurely stroll. This personal
bonding is very important to make the child feel the nest of love in the
absence of the mother.
The Bed-Time Should be
Special As Well.
You can read a story and chat about your plans for the next
day. This should also be the time when you discuss and plan the daily routine.
It has been observed in behavioral studies that these apparently simple
interactions play a major role in enhancing the self-esteem of the kid as he
Just as the evening is the time to relax, the mornings are
unavoidably busy. Allow the kid to help you out with the breakfast, arranging
the clothes and placing the school materials. The morning routine will make the
child understand that work is important and following routines is equally
necessary. This habit will make them disciplined
and responsible individuals as they grow up.
All said and done, the end of the day should be a special
one for both of you. It should always end with a warm hug and smile. Make the
child feel special and the kid will also make you feel special, so much so that
your own emotional loss will begin to soothe.
Keep Life Normal
As a single
parent, the weekends are a hectic one. Saturdays are usually spent on
completing errands and varied chores. You need to plan all the activities in
advance and involve your kid
too in some of them. Make sure that you do not end up in a mess as it can make
your kid feel insecure. Keep life normal with all your regular working out,
chilling out with family and friends and grooming too.
Single dads should note a point here, just because the
mom is not present, you should not behave in anyway that does not come
naturally to you, like molly-cuddling, etc. role playing is important but
remember, kids are aware on what they can expect from their mom and dads.