Over parenting can affect the overall growth and development of children. Read on to know about the 10 signs of over parenting so that you can prevent it.
Parenting comes with a lot of responsibilities and it is the fundamental duty of every parent to carry them out ardently. However, there are instances in which parents start considering their children are their properties and are engulfed by a propensity to become obsessed with them. This is commonly known as over parenting. Filial emotions are of the purest forms of emotion, but an upsurge of it in the part of the parents can have detrimental repercussions on the child as well as the parent. Let’s see how:
1. What Your Child Eats
Food habits are extremely important for the child's growth and development. However, often, parents have been observed toppling over a certain level of 'care' - they become obsessed and anxious about their child's food habits. It is necessary for every child to have a certain amount of vitamins, calcium, iron, protein etc.every day and junk food should generally be avoided. Some parents tend to take these too seriously and interfere all the time in what the child is eating. Unnecessary interference leads to unnecessary taxation on the child’s brains.
2. Child's School Activities
A child goes to school, learns certain things, adopts certain habits and perceives certain notions. Not all of them would be a positive sign for the child's development. Being parents beckons an over all vigil on your child's activities and correcting them whenever they go wrong. But nosy interference might backfire- the child will either get irritated or start suffering from low self esteem.
Homework are meant to be an assessment of how much the child is being able to recollect and apply what he has learnt in school. Correct evaluation is an absolute necessary; otherwise it will hamper the future guidance which the child requires. Often, parents are found to do homework for their children. This inhibits a child's education, especially, his or her ability to execute. Guide him or her, when necessary but never do it yourself as a parent for it will stand as a hurdle in the path of your child's long term development.
4. Clothing Habits
Your child will take up clothing habits according to what you wear. So, the best way to render a good habit to your child is to adopt a good habit yourself. However, do not interfere in your child’s habits unless they are abysmally obnoxious. Let your child follow his or her own outlook.
5. Everyday Chores
If you do not let your child do his or her common chores alone, it is his or her own independence that you are inhibiting. Later on, children tend to suffer from lack of self-sufficiency. Psychological case studies show that children who were merely guided by parents and did their own jobs themselves have grown up to be more independent minded adults than those who suffered unnecessary parental interference.
6. Fixing a Future
Which college will your child study in? What subject will he take up? Wait. He or she is just a little toddler. Every parent has dream for the child but it is better not to impose out on them against their will. The true triumph of successful parenting is letting your child follow his or her own dreams and guiding him or her throughout.
7. Arguments with Teachers
This has harmful effects on your child. A teacher is not only a knowledge imparting machine but a guide and mentor. Direct arguments with the teacher are not only an insult to the teacher but also convey a wrong message to your child. Children tend to take things for granted and forms a disrespectful opinion of their teachers.
8. Play Sessions
A child needs care and attention when he or she is hurt while playing or when he or she is attempting dangerous things. Keeping a strict watch over him or her is necessary, though day-to-day interference in matters of play will only decline his or her physical and spiritual growth. Even if he or she engages in some quarrel with his or her playmates, do not interfere. Let him or her handle it on his or her own, until and unless it reaches a certain level.
9. Personal Relationship
Adolescence is a period of storm and stress. During this time, your child needs proper attention during his or her personal and professional struggles. Take proper care but do not show too much interest in his or her daily whereabouts. Guide, do not instruct. This is the period of bloom for your child- let him or her proliferate into what he or she is meant to be.
10. Robbing the Space
Your child requires some space. Taking care of him or her does not imply that you will have to rob him or her off that space. Make him or her believe that you rely on him or her as much as he or she relies on you. This will boost him or her up in gaining self confidence and help him or her become an independent individual. Your child is your future. But do not try to overdo things. Let his or her wings grow. Let him or her fly. Over parenting might result in just the opposite.
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