Parenting is considered to be one of the best gifts from God but no couple can deny the fact that it is does affect relationships. Read on to find out how parenting impacts relationships and what to do to improve it.
Parenthood is the blessing from God. The family members spend months in the preparation for the arrival of the new member in the family. They are overwhelmed by the news of the new arrival in the family. Parents try to give the child all the comforts of the world from the time they bring their child home. This new member changes your relationship with your partner in a lot of ways if you do not handle it properly as discussed below.
Romantic Couple to Responsible Parents
Before you become parents you could spend a lot of time together, roaming around, eating whatever you want, spending money on useless stuffs. But after you become parents, things are bound to take a turn. Now you cannot afford to spend money recklessly, now before buying anything for yourselves you think of your kids first. Which is a good thing, but you should never give-up your needs completely.
Less Time for Your Partner
Once you become a parent you will need to devote the maximum time to your little one. Even your nights’ sleep will be affected. This deprivation of sleep will tend to make you irritable and then the normal household chores may seem to be disgusting. However, spending quality time with spouse is also very important.
Sometimes parents may feel jealous of each other. Generally moms can spend the maximum time with the little one than the dads, so the dads may feel jealous of not getting to spend time with the kids. He may also get jealous that the baby is taking too much of his mom’s time and she cannot give time to her husband. These feelings are normal and nothing to worry about.
Less Interested in Intimacy after Child Birth
Physical intimacy is very important in a relationship. Many moms after child birth find themselves less attractive with those extra pounds and dark circles which are common because of the deprived sleep at nights. So they become less interested in intimacy. This may affect the relationship to some extent. However, taking right step to improve relationship with spouse is a must. It is important to have a happy martial life to raise happy kids.
Sometimes it is important to take some time out for your own. But this creates a sense of guilt to the parents that they are becoming too much self centred or they are not taking proper care of their kids. But it is not at all a serious issue, in fact it is absolutely ok to take a break and enjoy yourselves.
After the birth of the child, relatives drop in your houses every now and then. This may sometimes become very irritating when after the whole days’ work you sit with your partner for a movie or having dinner together while your baby is asleep. These relatives give a sudden visit to wish your little one and you end up offering them lunch together even if you are not in a mood to.
Sometimes because of the relatives a raft is created between you and your partner. These relatives continue to give you a hell lot of advices and makes sure that you abide by those. You may sometimes feel the advices are not up to the point but your partner feels the advices are thoughtful. This may create a misunderstanding between you too. With right understanding and considerate communication between you and your partner is a must to solve such issues.
If something is bothering you and your partner, it is very important to take some time out and solve the issue by discussing all the facts that you think are important to discuss. You cannot stop communicating just because you are busy with the little one or your partner is busy in the office.
Do Not Always Teach Your Partner How To Handle the Baby
It is very obvious that moms can take care of the baby in a lot better way than dads. But it is not a very good thing to constantly teach your partner how to handle his baby. This will make the dads feel less worthy which is not desirable.
Arrival of the baby in the family changes everything, be it relationships or priorities. So it is very important to value each thing very cautiously to maintain peace in the family.
How does parenting impact the relationship of couples? What to do keep the spark alive in the relationships even after having kids? Why is it important to have a happy married life to raise happy kids? Discuss here.
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- The Indiaparenting Team