is necessary to be an involved parent but being overprotective can be harmful.
Take a quick look at the drawbacks of being an overprotective parent.
Being overprotective to your children is
not welcomed at all by kids. They feel suffocated sometimes if you constantly
freak out with them. Involvement does not mean being
overprotective to kids. Everyone irrespective of their ages likes to live a
life of Independence and so your kids.
By being overprotective you are simply
destroying your child’s Independence. You should get involved in your child’s
activities but you should also know where to draw the line. By getting involved
with your kids you are helping them grow interest in things that they might not
like in the beginning, but with your involvement they will gradually start
liking those things.
Being involved and being overprotective are
altogether two different terms and are never similar. Overprotective parenting
can have a lot of side effects, some of which are discussed below.
Drawbacks of Being an Overprotective Parent
Here is why you must prefer being an involved
parent and avoid being overprotective.
Risk Taking Attitude
If you constantly protect your kids from
facing any kinds of hardships in life, you are simply hampering the risk taking
attitude of your kids. This will make your kid scared of taking any risks in
life and remember no risk no gain. If they fear of taking
up challenges in life that would mean they are surrendering themselves to
fate much before the start of their honest endeavour.
It is always good to know where your kids
are going and who their friends are. But, when they grow older and if you follow
them everywhere they go, it is a matter of utter embarrassment for them in
front of their friends. Your kids might not bear such an embarrassment from their
friends. Everyone will tag them by different a name which is an insult for them.
So stop following them and let their live their life in their own way.
After a particular age it is important that
you let your children do things on their own. But there are some parents who
still think that their children are not big enough to handle everything even
after they have entered the independent world. By doing this you are simply
questioning their maturity which no one can take for granted.
Let them handle small problems themselves
and then only they will learn how things are done in this world. If you
continue solving problems on their behalf, there will be a time when they will
need you the most, and you may not be available then. Remember Man is Mortal.
Everyone has to leave the world at some point of time. If you overprotect your
children now, you are making them dependent on you. Always think what will they
do when you will not be there by their side?
By overprotecting your kid you are making
everything ready so that they face no problem in getting things done. But are
you really making your kids happy by doing this? Think twice. The answer is
“no”. You are actually stealing their happiness by creating armour over them
which they actually want to break through and take a deep breath.
Your obsession actually creates a stressful
environment that they hate to live in. When kids grow-up, they want an
independent life where they can live in their own way, take their own decisions
and faces their own consequences if they do anything wrong. They have nobody to
blame then. They want their life to be stress free and you being so much
overprotective actually suffocate them so much that they always try to find out
ways to escape. However, it is necessary for you to avoid burdening your child
with your decisions and be there to provide right guidance at every step.
When your children get everything handy they
lose their self confidence. They begin to think that they are not capable of
doing things in the proper way or their parents do not trust them so they do
everything for them. These negative impulses are very harmful for your
So let your kids do things in the way that suits
them. Guide them in the proper way but do not be overprotective so much that
your children lose interest in their work.
What is the difference between being involved
and being overprotective? What are drawbacks of being an overprotective parent?
How does being an involved parent help children? Discuss here.
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