Are you a parent of a toddler? Improve toddler-parent relationship and
learn about the ways that will help you
to raise your toddler the right way.
Parenting a toddler requires two most essential virtues – patience and
understanding, both in great amounts. Toddlers can get extremely difficult to
deal with at times, and life may seem frustrating for the toddler and the
parent alike. For you, it is the misbehaviour and the intermittent tantrums
that drive you crazy, and from the point of view of the toddler, it is the frustration of the ‘world’ refusing to
understand his objective and desires. But as the onus of ensuring that the
child grows up into a healthy individual, both physically and mentally, you
need to take note of the fact that you must show a great deal of maturity while
dealing with toddlers.
After all, you too were in that age in some stage of your life, and
today you are evolved as a responsible parent. So bring that experience and
maturity into play as you understand the ‘world’ from the toddler’s
perspective. You will be happy to find that most difficulties vanish with just
a little effort!
Tips for Parenting Toddlers
Given below are some simple tips that will
help you in parenting a toddler the
Show Affection as Much as Possible
Give your toddler the positive attention that he deserves. Kids are
special and they demand and deserve a great deal of positive attention from
their parents especially. Display your affection in the course of the regular
activities of the kid. Give a friendly pat, a reassuring hug and dollops of
kisses so as to assure them that you are there for them, always. They need to
feel reassured every now and then as this is the stage when they are the most
vulnerable. If you pay attention and praise your kid frequently, you will be
glad to notice that the kid listens to your directives out of love. He will
feel motivated to follow your rules.
Accept the Toddler For Who He Is
This is important. The kid is in the stage of self-discovery and also
understanding the world in the process. So he is in the stage of the
development of his own personality and individuality. As a parent it is your
responsibility to aid the toddler in developing the same.
The error that most parents make is that they expect and direct their
kids to behave and be like them. This is a wrong approach; as more often than
not you will find that the toddler grows defiant and subsequently the parent
finds the toddler to be a difficult one. You must respect the kid as an
individual and not impose yourself on him. Allow the kid to express himself as
an individual and then, it is up to you on how you correct his approach as
required. Such an approach will help grow with self confidence as well. So, the
first aspect is to let the toddler be, and accept him as he is.
Adopt a Lenient Approach, Relax Rules
Allow the toddler to develop in a relaxed and healthy atmosphere, where
he can express himself with ease and enjoy the joys of childhood. Do not
overload the child with a set of heavy-duty rules. It is a wrong notion that
strict rules will help in disciplining the child. Rather, you will find that
austere rules only makes a toddler defiant and he wishes to revolt with utter
disregard. Whereas, if the child finds that he is free to speak his mind and
act with freedom, he will be more receptive to what you have to say.
This is a great way to teach the kid the importance of being responsible
for his act and going through the follow-through of the same. If you feel that
certain act must not be done, and the toddler is hell bent on doing it. Then
allow him to do it to an extent that he is not majorly harmed by the action.
Then once he sees that the effect of his action is not as desired, he will
automatically realise that this is not an appropriate action. In future, he
will be more ready to follow your directives and side-by-side also understand
that one needs to be accountable for one’s action. This will teach him to own
Finally, you also need to
ensure that all such situations that provoke a tantrum or a difficult behaviour
are avoided as much as possible. Remember, you are the best teacher to your
toddler, so make sure that you follow the rules that you want to endorse and
follow them strictly yourself. It is up to you on how you set the limits and
when you need to put your foot down and say a ‘No’. With some of these tips,
you will find that the kid is becoming gradually inclined to listen and become
obedient and responsible.