How to Teach Children about Good Touch and Bad Touch
With the increasing
incidents of sexual abuse and fatal incidents with children, it is time you talk
to your child about this matter and educate her or him. Read on to learn about
how to teach children about good touch and bad touch.
We often hear in the news, stories of sexual abuse of children and it is
obvious they make you fear your child’s safety.
Well, sexual abuse of children is the reality today and the best way to keep
your children safe is to teach them about what is good for them and what is
Remember, the basic safety rule is the rule of protection. Teach your child
about these rules and since they are simple and understandable, even children
of 3 – 4 years would be able to save themselves. The only thing is that you
need to take the initiative and explain to your children individually about
good touch and bad touch.
How to Start
It is advisable to have one-to-one conversation with your child. Do
not panic or make your child nervous. You simply need to make your child alert,
more confident and to have a sense of safety.
So, even though using words like sexual abuse
bring in a chill in your spine, it is very important to use the right term so
that your child is capable of explaining the exact condition in front of any
What is Bad
Tell your children that the touch on body parts – chest or breast,
bottom or buttocks and the area between their legs is prohibited. These are the
body parts which nobody is allowed to touch. Also, if someone touches them that
makes them feel confused or uncomfortable and the person asks them not to tell
anyone about it, it is a bad touch. Clarify to your kids that bad touch can
also happen with their clothes on.
If something unusual happens that makes the child uncomfortable, she
or he should immediately tell his or her parents or someone she or he trusts.
Children should be taught to say ‘no’ to any such invitation offered by adults.
Remember, making your children aware of safety is more important than teaching
them manners. If any such thing happens in school, children should immediately
go to the principal and make the complaint.
Point to Remember
Teaching your child once is not enough. If your child is very young,
you should repeat this teaching in a month or two and afterwards you can repeat
in every six months as well. This is very important and works as the booster
dose of vaccines do.
Faced During Conversation
Since your child is very young, she or he may ask few questions.
Make sure you give a concrete answer to them. Some of the examples are –
1. Why are you telling me this? – Because it is to keep you safe from people
who may harm you.
2. What if other kids touch prohibited body parts? – Touching accidently while
playing is okay, but if any kid touches you again and again, you should let me
3. If there is any other question that you think makes you uncomfortable
answering, do not avoid your child. Try to answer your child’s question in an
One of the most important things is to have a strong bonding with your child.
No matter what happens, your child should not be afraid coming to you giving the details of the incident confidently. Remember, the
entire conversation is about keeping your children safe. Keep it as simple as you
did when teaching them about handling fire or knife or crossing the road.
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children? What are the causes of sexual abuse in children? Discuss
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