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Boy/Girl Crazy

Boy/Girl Crazy

Is your 8 to 10 year old child constantly thinking about the opposite sex and indulging in romantic thoughts?

Often younger children are obsessed with love notes, boyfriend and girlfriends. In some cases this is like a dog chasing a car. It looks like fun, but the dog doesn't know what to do with the car when he catches it. So too with the kids.

The notes and friendships are in part a game and in part rehearsal for adolescence. With kids of this age many are "rehearsing" and playing out the behaviour they see of teens and their teen idols. Television shows and Bollywood movies have young girls and boys swooning over dreamy stars. One need only view the movie audience to see the effect on some of the very young viewers. Further, they see other role models such as teen pop stars who blatantly use sex for self-promotion. But the issue isn't the role-playing or rehearsal per se. The issue is how far they take the game or role-playing and does it lead to trouble.

Early sexual exposure and experimentation can lead to trouble. In one community, 4 kids (ages 10 - 12) were involved in sexual activity. It became known when one girl disclosed to a friend who in turn told her mother. In this case the kids were acting out the various sex scenes they saw on Internet porn sites. Although consensual, the behaviour went far beyond conventional sexual activity and was far beyond the normal imagination of children at this age. It was very disturbing. It is important to note, these were otherwise good kids from good homes. They had never been in trouble before. They were role-modeling behaviour from an obscene source in the absence of supervision or other activities to occupy their time.

Kids in our society are being exposed to sexual information and material far beyond their maturity to manage or understand and some do mimic it.

If you want to put a little ice on youngsters' sexualization, here are a few tips:

1) Talk with them about relationships and what it means. Given their ages, this is sometimes best done one-to-one. If done in a group, kids of this age may degenerate into giggling and nervous laughter. Parents are generally the best persons to have these conversations with their kids. The parent should also be  appropriate interactions with their intimate partner when in view of their kids.

2) Keep kids in public view. Kids in public view are at less risk of getting into trouble. In other words, keep an eye on them and have them participate in many activities that can avoid trouble while having fun. Know where they are and whom they are with.

3) Parents MUST keep the home computer in the kitchen or some other open area where they can wander by. It is difficult for kids to surf for porn or any other dangerous websites when in plain view of mom or dad. Don't give in to whining if they object.

4) Many TVs have "parental controls" built into the remote. Parents are encouraged to block channels or specific programs that show explicit sexual content. Even if the kids do not go there intentionally, they can catch a glimpse when channel surfing. A glimpse is enough to capture their attention and lead them astray.

5) Children often enjoy Hindi movies because of the songs. Parents should get audio tapes or CDs of the songs, and discourage the child from watching clips on television.

Following these recommendations can decrease likelihood of young sexual experimentation, delinquency, drug and alcohol use and teenage pregnancy. The important thing for parents, educators and other adults in positions of responsibility, is to start when kids are very young. These recommendations should form a normal part of their lives. Let their life be filled with the fun and excitement of age-appropriate, healthy activities. It's a prescription for better, safer kids!

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madhuri singhal
madhuri singhal.10 years ago
this is important in this day and age where kids are being blasted with sexual content, starting from the movie posters, to the tv channels and to even the internet for slightly older kids. i just don't know how to safeguard my kids in this sex crazy world!!!
yusni munjiri
yusni munjiri.10 years ago
please send me, tank's
hamed.10 years ago
hi ilive yuo
i am irani boy
i old 13
yesno.10 years ago
then think about teens and also give them a solution to avoid sexy thoughts
shadi.10 years ago
its important the kids in this age are
so much smart
shahram.10 years ago
mohsen.10 years ago
salam be iranihaye bahal
Ali.10 years ago
software.10 years ago
there are softwares in the markt that disallow such stuff from comming up.
software.10 years ago
there are softwares in the markt that disallow such stuff from comming up.
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