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How to deal with a sexually abused child?

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Sexual abuse in children leaves an indelible mark in their innocent minds. They lose confidence and have a fearful attitude towards people. They become withdrawn. How to help such children recover from sex abuse. Read on.

Help your child recover from sex abuse.

Isha was shell-shocked to know that the tuition teacher had abused her eight-year-old son. How could that have gone unnoticed from her caring and watchful eye? "How do I handle this?" "How will the child live with this memory?" 

Most parents react similarly. They find themselves helpless and unable to cope with the grief caused by a sex abuse incident. Here are tips for parents on ways to deal with a sexually abused child. 
 

IMPACT ON YOU AS A PARENT

The first reaction of the parent of a sexually abused child is that of outright denial. Parents, who are secondary victims in any abuse case, tend to deny such an incident. At a later stage this denial gives way to anger, which they direct at themselves and the offender. But such overpowering feelings have to be controlled. Only a composed parent can help an abused child.  A parent has to first accept the reality and then make a very concerted effort not to feel depressed about it. 
 

BELIEVE IN THE CHILD

Even if the offender is a trusted family friend or a close neighbour or a relative, parents should not disbelieve a child when the latter narrates an experience of sexual abuse. Any doubt about the integrity of the child will shake the very foundation of your child's sense of right and wrong. Even if it is found that a child had given consent to the offender, parents have to empathize with a minor child. Parents have to extend full-fledged and unconditional support to the child after the unfortunate incident. Assure and reassure the child that you will keep the offender and his likes away in the future. Never let the child develop a deep sense of mistrust.  
 

ALWAYS REMAIN IN CONTROL

Parents should never betray their feelings. Children tend to get affected by the vibes. Always look in control, even if you are shaken from within. A child, especially a sexually abused one, draws one's energies from supporting parents.
 

REMOVE THE BURDEN OF GUILT

Never interrogate the child as to why he or she was hiding the fact for so long. There is no point in adding to the child's feeling of guilt.  For example, if your son feels depressed to join his old circle of friends, let him take his time. Tell him that he is as precious to you as he was before he was abused.

 
BEHAVE NORMAL 

Parents tend to get very overprotective after the incident. This does not help. Stick to the normal caring behaviour and do not confuse the child with extraordinary concern. Work towards making the child self-reliant. 
 

HELP THE CHILD TO EXPESS

Encourage your child to express his inner feelings, either in creative competitions or elocution.  Discourage your child from brooding too long about it, or by relenlessly discussing it. But he should be given the chance to vent his feelings about the traumatic incident.

 
GET A PROFESSIONAL INVOLVED 

Your child is bound to experience certain behavioural difficulties, which only a professional can handle. Get a professional at the earliest, before the child is derailed. Your child will also feel reassured that there is another adult to take charge and help you out in this situation. Professional counseling along with psychiatric help will also help you to deal with your own trauma. 
 



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Candilla.3 years ago
Parents must have conversation with the child about sexual abuse, somewhere that the child feels comfortable, most probably alone. Follow up on whatever made you concerned. If there was something your child said or did that made you concerned, ask about that.
 
 
 
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Kennedy.3 years ago
such kids need to be handled emotionally as they are emotionally vulnerable. parents often don’t get much advice on how to talk to their children about sexual abuse.
 
 
 
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Little.3 years ago
parents should explain the child that it is not his fault. They should give him love and support to the child
 
 
 
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Isha was shell-shocked to know that the tuition teacher had abused her eight-year-old son. How could that have gone unnoticed from her caring and watchful eye. " How do I handle this" . " How will the child live with this memory" Here are tips for parents on ways to deal with a sexually abused child: 1. Parents, who are secondary victims in any abuse case, tend to deny such an incident. At a later stage this denial gives way to anger, which they direct at themselves and the offender. But such overpowering feelings have to be controlled. 2. Believe in the child. Even if the offender is a trusted family friend or a close neighbour or a relative, parents should not disbelieve a child when the latter narrates an experience of sexual abuse. 3. Always look in control, even if you are shaken from within 4. Remove the burden of guilt. 5. Behave normally. 6. Encourage your child to express his inner feelings, either in creative competitions or elocution. 7. Professional counseling along with psychiatric help will also help you to deal with your own trauma. Discuss this topic!
LISA
It has been 9 months since I found out my 8 year old son was sexually abused. I am still feeling angry, sad, confused and guilty. I can go more than a day now w/o crying or losing it. The hardest t...
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In such a case, I think its important for the parent to have patience. Time is the best medicine which will heal all the memories....
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