Here are some tips on giving advices to teen on
peer pressure and sex. Help your teen understand the aspects of peer pressure
related to sex.
This can be a tricky situation. Parents
have so many cautions in their mind when it comes to peer pressure and sex that
they often are not sure on what exactly are the factors to focus on. They also
commit the error of burdening so much of to-dos and not-to-dos that the teen
gets overwhelmed and somewhat insecure. So first it is for the parents to
decide on the exact issues that they would want their teen to be careful about
regarding peer pressure and sex. The presence of peer pressure and sex must be
acknowledged first. Do not live in a false idea that my child is far away from
such ‘bad guys’ and he will not get himself into it as he is very ‘good’. The
very notion of bad guys and being good has changed dramatically over the years.
Today, it is not bad to explore and experiment and it is neither good to be
living in isolation. So, make sure that the teen is well aware of the aspects
of peer pressure related to sex and above all, what are the factors that must
be kept in mind.
the teen understand terms like unprotected sex and sexual assault
These are serious issues that you need
to discuss with your child. During the developmental stage when the teen is
getting to know and experience a variety of emotions due to the hormonal
changes in the body, you need to make sure that the child makes informed
choices. Have a frank discussion with him about the physiological changes and
what they imply. Be casual and scientific in your approach. Answer their
queries and clear their doubts and confusions if they are harbouring any ideas.
You will notice a marked change in their
outlook once they get the right answers to all their doubts and queries related
to the body. Help them understand that the changes in the body and mind that
they are experiencing is very natural and nothing to be ashamed about.
Help the teen understand that there can
be situations where they need to deal and battle pressure to get sexually
active. It is up to them on how they deal with it.
in the building of will power
After equipping them with adequate
information, the next step is to help them build the right attitude. Developing
and building will power is vital. Restraint comes from will power. Help them
understand that the pressure and allure might be many, but ultimately it is
their choice on what decision they take. After all, it is their life and they
need to be responsible and accountable for their action. Explain it out that
sex is a pleasurable activity, but at the same time it renders strong impact on
the psychological set up of the mind. Forced and underage sex can be harmful to
the mind as well as the body. Help them understand that they need to be aware
as well as mature enough to deal with it.
Instil a set of values that they will
relate to and this will simultaneously help them choose the right peer group
that has a positive influence.
Finally, you also need to ensure that
the teen is growing up in a positive environment. Help him develop hobbies that
are educative and encourage him to engage in activities that are exciting as
well as beneficial for the body and mind. Regular physical exercises and sports
are a great way to put those rushes of adrenalin to good use! It has been found
that more the child in engaged in regular activities that uses up his energy,
the lesser are the chances of him/her to get involved in thoughts and ideas of
sexual fantasy that borders on potential risky behaviour. Last but not the
least, be a friendly parent and not a preacher to your teen. You will find
yourself in a better position to communicate and put your thoughts across, and
also sense the danger signal that you need to take steps to correct.