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Coming to Terms with Infertility

For couples who discover that they cannot have children for whatever reason, the loss of parenthood, a basic ingredient of life, comes as a rude shock. If you discover that you are infertile don't feel depressed or guilty. Today treatment is available. Also adopt a positive attitude.


Introduction

People take parenthood as much for granted as birth and death. You are born, you get an education, then a job, followed by marriage, parenthood and finally death. This is some kind of unwritten cosmic schedule that humans follow and no one really thinks about the progression of events as they live their lives. You just flow from one phase of life to another in a seamless fashion. For couples who discover that they cannot have children for whatever reason, the loss of parenthood, a basic ingredient of life, comes as a rude shock. 
 

Denial

Most couples who are told that they are infertile find it difficult to accept this verdict. After all, people all over the world are having babies every minute. It's the most natural thing in the world. The next thought that occurs to them is considering the rate at which medical technology is advancing, surely the problem can be fixed. This is true to a certain extent. Various infertility treatments have worked for many couples who were having difficulty conceiving a child. But there are still some couples that slip through the cracks. After spending huge amounts of money and following all the doctors' instructions, some couples still fail to conceive a child. 
 

Depression

These couples often slip into a deep depression. They think - "Why us?" They should realize that there is no point beating themselves up pointlessly about something that is beyond their control. They should try to resign themselves to the fact some things are just not meant to be. However, couples pass through many agonizing hours of self-doubt and despair before they reach this ideal state of acceptance.
 

Guilt

The husband or the wife often feels guilty thinking that it is his or her fault that conception was not possible. Sometimes the man or woman's own feelings of guilt drive them to ascribe these feelings to their partners. This is usually unwarranted as the thought may have never crossed their partners' minds, nor have they acted in a manner indicating that they blamed the other person. 
 

Social stigma

Women who are infertile often feel that the fact that they cannot bear children makes them less of a woman or inadequate in some way. Unfortunately, this is a sentiment that is often supported in society. Being barren is not a stigma that a woman should have to bear like a cross for the rest of her life. There is much more to a woman than her ability to bear a child. 

Similarly, if conception was not possible as a result of male infertility, the male partner may feel that it is a slur on his manhood. Men should remember that sterility does not automatically mean a loss of virility. Sterile men can still be extremely virile. 
 

Be positive

Childless couples should make every attempt to pull themselves out of the depths of despair. Speaking to other couples in a similar situation can be a source of great solace. These couples should try to find out about infertility support groups. They should learn to accept their childlessness as a fact of life and learn to deal with it positively. Adoption is an option that they may want to consider. If adoption is not a choice they would like to make, then they will have to find other ways to channel their love for children. Remember that parenthood is an experience that should not be missed out on if possible. But if you can't be a parent, life does go on. There is a whole wide world out there with a new experience around every bend.

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Madhur.5 years ago
do not get depressed. coming to terms with your infertility is the best solution. this is not the end of everything. you can still become a mother. with assisted reproductive technology, you can have hopes of becoming a mother.
 
 
 
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Pallavi Gupta.5 years ago
i have recently found out that i am infertile. now my in-laws are always taunting me for this. i am depressed. i feel like ending my life. can i never have my own baby?
 
 
 
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Bharatchandra.6 years ago
Hello Everyone,

I can not reveal my true name, so I am keeping my name as “Bharatchandra” the name I like.
First of all I would like to tell you the reason of getting this Idea. As we all are human beings our bodies need ‘SEX’. I am doing “H P” whenever I am away from my wife after marriage and before marriage also. I can understand the feelings of the couples those are trying to have the kids.
In the nutshell “I feel I am wasting my valuable sperm”. I will be happiest person if I could help someone.

Brief about me:
I took birth in the year 1974, Andhra Pradesh, India. I am post graduate and working in the IT Industry currently in Bangalore and I am married in the year 2002 and blessed with one baby girl. My Mother tongue is Telugu and I can speak English, Hindi, and Tamil. My height is 5`10” and physic healthy and color fare. 0+ve
My daily life: Morning 45 minutes walking, then come back and do the Surya Namaskara,Breathing exercises and the meditation for 45 minutes, then take bath and do Pooja and have the breakfast. Office and sleep at around 10 PM. I pray to God “Shiva”.
Attitude: I feel bad when someone is in trouble. My wife always comments “You think less about our self and think and spend time for others”. Yes. If we think through her angle it is right. This is my weakness.
I think I am ‘okey’ MEN. B`coz I always used to help people. First time I have donated my blood may be 12 years ago when one school going student met with Lorry accident. That day I am very happy. After that also I donated blood voluntarily by going to the hospital on my few birthdays. And few birthdays going to the ‘old age homes’ and ‘poor students hostel ‘distributing sweets and food.

I think, as I parent I can understand what the parents expect.

My donation is strictly confidential, I will do direct donation only, I will do only who is really need
The person must be a good behavior and from good family

Thanks & Regards,

Bharatchandra.
Bharatchandra12345atgmail.com
 
 
 
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