Does your child bully? Do you get a lot of
complains about your child bullying other children? There are several causes behind
bullying in children. Read on to find more about the common causes of bullying
One of the biggest questions that come in the minds of few
parents is why children bully. Unfortunately there is no universal answer to
this question. So, each child needs to be analysed individually. Children who
are socially dominant, impulsive or those who get easily frustrated start bullying.
Usually these children find bullying the best way to solve problem and gain a
feeling of power.
Kids are sometimes cruel and there can be various reasons
behind that. Usually it has been observed that child who bully have some or the
other family issue. Most of them do not get proper attention and love at home.
Also, the parents of some of these children use violence to solve problems.
Reasons why Children
Have a quick look at the causes of bullying in children.
Violence or Verbal Abuse at Home
Children start bullying because they see violence very
common at home. For them, communicating in this manner is quite normal and they
think that they are simply acting out anger
and frustration in the way other family members do. It will become very
difficult to teach such child ways of communicating in a different and better
Hide Self Inabilities
Many children suffer from inferiority complex and in order
to hide their self inabilities, they bully. Usually, this type of child does
not want other children to become popular or perform better in any way. They
humiliate them, make them feel embarrassed and devaluate them to prove that
they are worthy. Bullies maintain their status by lowering that of others.
Some children are born bully and this can be seen right from
the time he is a toddler.
In these cases, child psychologists or psychiatrists, developmental therapists
or occupational therapists can be consulted.
Children who are normally peace loving but turn out to bully
others at a stage of life, means that he has been having a bad company in
recent past. It also happens if nobody in the family
shares love, feelings
and belongings. If the family has a culture of violence, the peace loving child
can turn out to be bullying after sometime.
Lack of Attention
Some children bully because they want to get attention from
elders and others and they fell that even if it is negative, they have received
attention. This makes the child become fully trained as a bully with passage of
time and he never feels anything wrong in that.
Some children are otherwise cool and soft natured but seem
to be turned out violent in recent past. There must be some temporary cause
like a sudden death in family or of a close friend, divorce, boredom or
There are some parents that pamper their children and spoil
them. For them there is nothing wrong in whatever their child does. This makes
the child believe that all their demands will get accepted and they feel
powered and feel good about themselves.
When dealing with any kind of bully, it is very important
you go to the root cause of the behaviour. In fact, if the child is bullying
this show that he has no control over his aggression and anger. He needs
counseling so that he learns better ways of communicating and learns healthy
ways of interacting with other people. Professional counseling can be really
helpful here as it teaches the child to understand why bullying is harmful and