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Name: gentle

hi,
i have a daughter she is 3 1/2 yrs now. she is going to nursery. she is my first child and she is the only one for now. basically my daughter' s nature is she very emotional, she loves pets (espically a dog), she talks and understands almost everything. very bright and active.but she keeps falling sick often. she is very cranky, like when she gets up she is cranky or will start crying if she doesnt get what she wants. all this is ok with me i can manage.
i am a stay at home mum. but the thing that worries me is. for quite sometime now she is showing dislikes for her dad.it was not like this before. she would cry when he goes to office and will cry for hours together. she used to gets so excited when her dad comes home hugs and kiss him. and even before he goes to office she would hug and kiss him several times, and cling on to him. now things are just the oppisite. he loves her very much and gives her everything. infact i am the one who keeps shouting and correcting her. he loves to hug and play with her but she wont let him now. she keeps pushing him away. it is hurting him so much. when we go out together he is the one who carries her and feeds her if we go to the food court. he is trying his best to win her love but she keeps pushing him away. why is this happening.
i must say that my hubby and i argue in front of her. and sometimes i break down and cry. has this affected her feeling for her father.
he keeps saying that i am telling bad things about him to her. but god' s my judge, i always tell her good things about him. i even explained to her in a nice way, that she should not behaviour like this to her daddy.
when her dad is not around she would say \" i love u mamma and i love dadda too. but when he is around he tell \" mamma i love u and she hugs and kisses me\" she will turn around and tell her dad \" i dont like u please move, bad boy\" . but when she wants to be rocked on the leg to sleep, only she likes her dad to do that. well, becoz he is quite tall and has long legs. i am very upset by this. as i want my daughter and her father to have a loving bond with each other. and i know he is hurting
why is this happening.
am i doing anything wrong. in anyway. please help me. i am feeling very bad.

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