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I have an adamant child. Basically I was very adamantin my childhood, so is it due to the same reason my child is also very adamant .if no then how do i tackle. Not scared of mom/dad...Talks like a parrot and maturity as per 5years child he is less matured no nothing wron with my child. and very good in studies so how do i tackle his adamancy and his handwritting is very bad.
please help me vs replied. Just understand that your son is still very young. My boys aged 6 & 4 are also not as matured as the girls their age. Maybe boys are just like that. They take longer to mature than girls. As for spending time with other children, you have to help him in this matter. See who his friends are and proactively befriend their parents and tell them to send their children to your house to play with your son or take him over to theirs if those people have no problem. Believe me I have done this and though I have been refused at times, mostly it works atleast with other Indian parents. You can also arrange with other parents to get together in the nearby garden. Infact I stay in this Indian locality just for my children's friends though My husband and I don't like the house but friends are a part of growing up and I don't want to snatch it from them. For the issues your son is cranky about, just carry him to the bathroom in a matter-of-fact way and brush his teeth. Let him howl. Don't show anger or irritation, keep a calm face and get the job done. He will calm ina week's time when he understands that his howling does not work. One more thing, is your son getting enough rest and sleep? Apart from school,1 extra activity, twice a week is enough for a 5 year old. Let him have atleast 10 hours of sleep everyday, more if he needs. Even my second son aged 4 gets cranky on the days he misses his quota of sleep. I am wary of posting my E-mail add on the web. Hope you understand. Lakshmi Natarajan replied. yes!! I agree to you that he needs to be playing with his own age group but the problem is we stay abroad and you know the kids they are at home and no child coming out and playing...so playing and migling with the kids of his age is rare...but definately going to school being in the bus with all his age group kids then going to drawing class and swimming these also still not matured and very talkative which show his immaturity . and please tell me morning too he is very very cranky to get and bursh his teeth and take a bath a real tough routine.
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Please give a very good suggestion i am firm with him but he more adamant than my firmness. And please tell me he cannot swim wiothout floats io want him to swim without the floaters on and he starts crying for that what shall i do i have explained all the possible ways ...nothing wis working out. vs replied. My second child is also very adamant so I am very firm with him in matters which are important.Studytime, TV time, computer time and sleep time are all scheduled and so is the level of cleanliness and no matter howmuch he resists, I stick to my grounds. I let him have his way on what to wear, what to eat and play and other unimportant things. He is still stubborn but atleast not difficult. As for the hand writting sit with him when he writes and if you feel the work is shabby, tell him to redo it neatly. Be firm but be reasonable.