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Friends,
My MIL is very jealous of me. She does not want to see me enjoying my life. To be frank, she has told both me and my husband that she cannot see both of us happy simply bcoz she didnt have an opportunity to be like this when she was newly married!!! can u guys believe. Now coming to my problem, both my inlaws & parents stay in the same city with a distance of 30mins drive. After marriage she didnt allow me to go to my parent's house almost for 4 months and first time when I wanted to go she created such a mess, cried and pleaded me not to go!!! but still I went. This scene continues whenever I head towards my parent's house. But look at her luck for 17 years she was staying right above her mom's house!!!! hmmm. Now that we are abroad she is having all fun with her sibilings, enjoying all the marriage arrangements of her niece and nephew's and now I cannot help I feel very jealous.. I really feel bad for feeling so. I have a younger sister who is to be married, I always imagine that she wont allow me to enjoy my stay during her marriage days and she will just allow me to go on the marriage day. How do I help myself to come out of this odd feeling.
Please give me tips. Meanwhile my hubby was a silent observer when she used to create this scene. hello replied. when I read what you wrote I felt as though I was reading about my own situation. It is exactly the same.

I went for my sisters wedding in the same situation and was really pestered by my IL's , 2 or 3 days it drove me crazy, but it you should not let it control you, do what you want to,at the same time don't say anything back, they are not even worth that much.Don't feel guilty for anything, do what you feel like, it is no use listening to them. Husbands are chickens in front of their parents or even part of their ideas. augustborn replied. Dear friend
It really amazed me to know that you are talking about words like \";allow\";...
Do you need permission to go to your own parents house! Who is she to allow/dis-allow...and how dare you insult yourself by asking her.
You are an individual. True, she's your elder, your husband's mom and you need to respect her(though one should command respect and not demand it) but that doesnt mean that you will let people walk all over you.
You are going for your sister's marriage, there is no reason why you should dread not being allowed to go there. She will and can only dictate terms to you if you let her. Do your stuff, go whereever you want, whenever you want...you dont even need to tell her. If your husband chooses not to accompany you(out of fear of his mom) let him be...you dont have to care. It will be a happy occassion for you and your parents, dont let your evil MIL spoil it for you...
Apart from gagging and holding you captive, is there anything else she can do...:)
Care two hoots about her and her \";lalita pawar\";...

Stand up for yourself dear...coz noone else will...