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I am forced to have a single child due to lot of circumstances. I have heard lot of things said against having a single child. But i really want to hear about single children who are doing well. I need encouraging stories on how parents here handle their single children efficiently so that they develop without any depression, anxiety problems.
I have heard a lot of discouraging stories and that is not what i want to hear. Please. Mel replied. Research has shown that single children have a higher capability of excelling in life and in their careers. This is because they have a higher confidence level, because of the undivided attention showered on them by their parents.

I have a big brother, so I liked the idea of having 2 children. But, my husband is an only child, and he always rooted for a single child, since he says that you can do SO MUCH MORE FOR A SINGLE CHILD. There needn' t be any compromise. But, if you have 2 or more children, you have to take double measures of everything... healthcare, insurance, education, etc. Instead, give the best to one child.

But, I still wasn' t convinced. That' s when I started reading up on the topic. And I found out that all the discouraging stories about single children being selfish, maladjusted and all that nonsense... are all related to the way parents bring up children.

Research has proven that most single children are academically superior and do much much better in life that their counterparts with siblings.

So, now, I' m absolutely convinced about the merits of having just one kid. As Smita says, give them the best of your time, attention, and care and watch as they blossom beyond what you could have imagined. Smita replied. Hi Kiran,

I am a happy mother of a 2.5 yr old daughter. I alwayz wanted to have only one child be it a baby girl or a baby boy. As u say, u r forced to have only one child, i advise you to take it in a positive spirit. U should count all your blessings rather than thinking negative. Thank god for giving you such a sweet child n making you a mother so as to experience the beautiful feeling of motherhood. As far as u having heard negative about single child, i suggest you to take all the negatives out of your mind. Just think positive. If you have one child you can concentrate n give undivided attention to your child which would make your child a strong, positive n confidence individual. Try n be a good friend, mentor n a parent to your child. Your child will simply love your company and never ever miss having a sibling.Cherish every moment you have with your child and look at all the good things in your life. There are so many single child who grow up to become successful personalities in their own fields be it leaders, businessmen, sportsmen, social workers, other professionals etc. So keep up your spirits n dont try to think too much about your circumstances forcing you to make a decision of having a single child. My very best wishes to you and your family. Be a proud mom of a single child !!!!!! laxmi replied. Hi Kiran. U r forced to hv One Kid but thr are many parents who are willingly accepting the \" One is Fun funda\" . Even Im having one kid. Even at times I think whether to opt for second baby or just settle for one. I asked my 3 yrs old girl, do u want one more sibling sis or a bro, her reply to this was\" Bilkul Nahi\" don' t you love me??!!!. Actually, having a Single Kid is a matter of personal choice. Coz, parents are prepared accordingly. I hv seen kids asking for siblings when grow up at the same time I hv seen two siblings fighting like cats or dogs and pulling each other legs to prove good/ smart in front of thr parents. In this cat fight one kid gets punished and slowly jealousy- bad thinking creeps in.

U see it all depends on how we bring up our child. Thr r N no of cases whr single kid is very confident, self dependent and caring coz he has got single line attention fm his parents.

So be COOL.