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Hi, My 3.5 yr old son thinks and feels that i am his enemy. He does not come near me at any given point in the day. He ignores me as if there is no mom existing in the house. He was not like this a year ago. But lately it is getting too bad and it is really bothering me. He does not want to sleep with mommy, he does not want mommy to do anything for him. He does not like mommy(he says it). There are every day incidents where he makes it very clear that he does not like me , or he does not want me doing anything for him.
But on the other side , I try to do all his favorite things, like take him to chukie cheese, swimming, bring him candies that he likes... take him to art classes etc.

I am not sure why he is growing up like this. Not sure what i am doing wrong. My husband thinks its just a phase but I go thru the pain everyday and he does not get it.

To add to all this my inlaws came to visit for 6 months and its been 2 months that they are here... and things have got even worse. They keep saying... dont do that, mommy will get angry. If you do bad things, mommy will sleep with you tonight as if that was a punishment. On top of all this they overule anything i say to him. If i say no to something, they give it to him in 2 mins...

Very frustrating and I feel like i am so alone in my own home. My husband understands my pain but he will never talk against his parents. Not helping much

Did anyone go thru this? Any suggestions? manju replied. hi
I am facing the same problem except the inlaws problem. I am a working mother.I had to leave her to maids and have to manage everything because my husband is/was too busy in his job. Since the beginning i have felt that my daughter doesn't love me. Now she has started saying that i will tell papa to bring another mumma. i suffer a lot b'cos of this but not even my husband understand this. she doesnot want to be with me when he is around and he nejoys her all the love and attention. The reason may be that I sometimes try to discipline her. When he goes to tour she doesn't eat, cries a lot and sometimes catches a fever. I sometimes dought that maids would have been the reason behind her hatred towards me.
I am very much worried but have nobady who can understand my problem.
manju nisha replied. hi, i had many such in laws problem and hetal had helped me alot. you can reach her at parents of babies board.I am sure she will work out something for you.
my inlaws were too nosy. if that was not enough, they taught my child all bad manners as well. it was hard for me to deal with them.
Inlaws are really cruel to do that to their own grand kids.
I am sorry i am not of much help, but am sure you will get a better answer.