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Yeah!It' s my MIL.She' s going to be here in a month or two.I get panic attacks thinking about that.She' s a real expert in influencing my husband' s mind by emotionally black-mailing him.
All these days she was staying far from us and whenever we ask our ILS to come to our place,they openly humiliate us saying that they get bored coming to our place and that we don' t entertain them well by taking them to trips and sightseeing. Now that my MIL is finding it difficult to manage things all alone ,they may be planning to stay with us for quite a long period.
I really don' t have any problem looking after them in their old days but for the conspiracies they create ,I' m too scared.I know pretty well that my MIL would' nt mind to see us separated as she never hesitated attempting so.Any little fire of quarrel arise between me and my husband ,she' ll make sure she pours some more ghee into it.And speaking about my husband ,he gets easily influenced.And I' m scared what' s my situation in the coming days.
My problem is I do too much for them.I care too much about them thinking its my responsibility but in return they always misunderstand and misquote me.They poison my hubby' s ears against me and my parents.Still I would be sweet to them thinking afterall they ' ve taken so much pains to bring up their son and its natural for every parent that they keep their son in control.Till recently I paid no heed to all the venom they spilled in my life.But when I understood that my MIL wouldn' t even hesitate to separate my husband from me ,I can' t stop hating her.Now I don' t want to be sweet to them.But my husband' s sentiments and feelings for them will get hurt and I don' t want that to happen.B' coz he loves me so much as much as I love him and I don' t want to lose him.I don' t know how to handle this situation? advisor replied. dear u have kids then no one in the world can take your hb from u. But if ur mil coming means whatever u do they dont happy and they create problems u try to maintain some distance and make ur husband understood that they are putting kerosine. you behave in such a way that they themselves go away.... what is the relationship is pending when they want break ur both relationship. if they r good be good if they are acting smart act urself also smart that in such a way that ur husband also cannot understand.......bye but dont loose confidence