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Hi, reading your message...i have tears in my eyes cause I am in the sameboat as you. I gave birth to a girl four months back and my MIL is also so very possive abt my kid. The day she was born my MIL never made me sleep with my daughter. For the first few days my milk was not enough so there she got the chance and fed the baby on Nan1 and hence onwards she found this reason very suitable to keep the baby away from me. By God grace after a month I went to my parents home which was a big relief. But since I have to join office and I live in a different city, my MIL has came over to take care of the child. She hates me going late to the office and comming early home. I try to go during lunch hour to feed my baby but she is so jealous, I can sense that. Though my husband supports me to a extent, I feel If I keep telling him abt her absurd behaviour he will think I always complain of her. I am also very much tensed and depressed as to what to do. On th top she evern tries to feed the baby, pacify her. I just hate this but I cannot do anything. I told my husband but since he has not sen her doing, he cannot say anything to her. She always makes me do something or the other to be just away from the baby. Please guide me what shall I do...a depressed mom
Rashmi replied. is it possible for you to consider sabbatical for a year or so. my daughter is 4 mths old and i have quit my job to look after her and dont plan to resume work till she is atleast 2. i have a mil with whom i dont get along...so this is the only solution for me. baby is the top priority...job can be had back again but a child is very precious amritha replied. hi,
i too faced the same situation. my MIL spoilt my child by telling her that ur mummy is leaving u and going to office for money, she likes money more than you, etc. but my husband understood his mother' s behaviour. we daily made the child understand that granny id telling lies. U also first make ur husband understand the problems. Then surely a relief will come. If possible, take sabbatical leave till ur baby is atleast 2 yrs old. good luck. Anshu replied. I would suggest you 3 things:

1) Very Much Needed: Be Bold. Say No, if you don' t want to. Also, Do not try to do everything on your own. Leave some small tasks for her.
If you feel your husband would not like it, then do tantrums. Like head achem back-pain etc

2)Since you are working, it would not be difficult to hire a maid.
You cannot win over her, Pls remember and do not waste your energy.
By getting into arguments. you would have some solace as you would have someone to dump work on.
3) Find out a creche near your office. I guess she would not be here for very long, convince your husband.