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My MIL is an expert in mocking at people.She just throws indirect words thinking what a wise job she has done.And moreover she compares everybody else' s kids with my kid or vice versa....If my kid doesn' t eat properly she says somebody somebody' s kid eats double to what my kid eats.And mocks at him ' you don' t have enough strength to lift small things' .I get so irritated.My kid had delayed speech and this again is a topic for her,and she goes on in b/w conversations,' her daughter speaks like a grown up,she learnt it when she was as young as 2yrs.' It really hurts me.
My child till recently suffered mild autism(which now he has come out),for that she said ' let' s not think of marrying kids inside our family ,can' t say who becomes what when they grow up' (as she doesn' t even understand what autism means)(but that' s sure a relief to me as I was not keen about it from the beginning.)But I' m really sick of her way of treating not even sparing kids.She' s a total mess coz she always messes when she' s around.
I think MILS are like that.Thay never appreciate their dils for their patience and insight but are always ready to mock and compare them with others who are not even a matter of concern to us. same boat replied. I am in same boat as yours.. used to feel bad about her harsh words for my son who' s having a genetic disorder.. and then my husband told me you love him and I really love him.. then why do u get bothered about others. All wont love him.. all dont love you or me who are normal.
Also the doc told me take that critcism as positive & be happy if your child is able to out perform that comparison. Even if he cant match up love him for whatever he' s irrespective of what others say.
We feel bad as long we consider them as family & related.. pls distance yourself with this feeling.. she' s just related to your husband.. and that will bring some relief.