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hi

i am losing my mind and need help. my inlaws are driving me crazy. I hate them from my guts, i have never hated anyone else to this degree ever in my life, and my hate for them grows. i am completely poisoned. i need to cleanse myself.

they play politics like anything. they should have been running the country, not spoiling a family. My husband, baby and I are happy family. But with them around, they are visiting us for 6 months from india, they have broken all relationship i have with my husband and my baby has with his father. they are with my husband 24-7, they don' t leave him for a minute. My husband and I barely get a chance to say anything to each other during the entire 24 hours, I could count on my fingers how many words we exchange during the day. My husbands get maybe few minutes in the day, if that to play or hold the baby, and that too is interferred by my inlaws. They think that since they don' t see their son and the grandchild during the time they are india, it gives them every right to monopolize and spend every second they are here with them.
What bothers me the most is that they are hinderance to my child' s growth. Before they came everyone used to see my baby and say he is doing really well for his age, and now his growth has slowed, because they bore him to death. There are maybe 5-10 phrases they say to him all the time, repeating them over and over again. as soon as my baby goes to them, they start saying that, take him to a room (where i am not there) and within 15 mins the baby goes to sleep bored out of his mind, and jumps with excitement everytime someone else is around.
They are mental psychos. I can go on and on, but i just hate them. They give me a look and make me feel guilty every time i take the baby for feeding or anything else. They lock the baby up with them in thier room and force him to sleep for hours and make him go without eating for hours, until i can' t stand it anymore and get the baby. Even them they give a look.
I understand they are my hubbys parents and i need to learn how to live with them. In beginning I used to treat them like my parents, but they told me once that you are alone in this house to my face and do everything in their power to make me feel like an outsider. How do i keep my peace of mind? Please help. sun replied. Your husband prefers more the company of his parents than you. You have to think what is the reason. Do you avoid your husband like typical indian wife? kanta replied. dear tulsi

take heart, ur inlaws appear to be wicked and biased. they seem to blame you that their son is away from them. see how senseless people could be !
anyways, the good thing is its only for 6 months :-)
they must be driving you crazy. take heart and endure it with patience and wit.
apnaa khoone mat jalaao unke liyae !!!!!
they dont even care abt u so please do not spoil ur health. i too hate my inlaws but i make sure that it doesn' t gets intoy head. my inlaws are not so important so as to spoil my sanity.
frankly speaking, hubbys do have a indency to become a dumd puppet with parents around. let your hubby spend time with them and occasionally you too go their and sit with them. do not give ur hubby the impression that you are ignoring his parents even if u do. let them hold the baby but keep taking care of the baby. take care of baby' s health to whatever extent you could do. when the three of them are engaged in personal talks excluding you, you go read a book, watch tv, play with baby,pray to God or talk to a friend. keep yourself engaged. sooner or later they are going to leave. aa replied. They always take my kids in another room, and close the door...why??? thats so silly!!! I try to go in every few mins but they also donlt like me interfering with them...my ils are VERY posseive about my kids and my husb too....aa aa replied. hi tulsi, i can totally understand, my ils do the same thing to me.