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Role of in-laws:Seems to be OK
2008-06-20
Name: Suvika CHN



Dear Friends,

Thank you very much for all of ur valueable suggestions and advices.
I am feeling better now. Yesterday my hus talk to me and said that he can understand how i have felt and so sorry for that and wont do it again. i said him that i dont have any objection if my bil is coming here. but he should have told me instead of conceling. anyway thats settles it.. As namitha said, i dont want a fall in my married life.
and tomorrow is my b' day and he asked me to come early from office to go to the temple together. this is the first time he is asking such a thing.
and today morning one more thing happened. my bil called my hus and asked whether he can tell that 100 he will get a job here. my hus said it is not possible bcoz my bil didn' t even complete his +2. so with that qualifiation he will get a less paying job only. but he wants pay of atleast Rs 10000. so he said that he is not interested to come here at the moment. if my hus can guarantee only he will come. so i dont think he will be coming. then my ILS will not be staying here for a long time, i think.
Dear sss, u told that ils r coming here to take care of my DD bcoz they r so much fond of her. well, it is not like that. since my parents are coming and staying here for almost 6 months consequetively they think that my hus is giving so much of money to them. they told this to one of our relative.
my bil is 24 yrs old now. but he is a very irresponsible person. he even doesn' t know to operate a PC. a couple of times my hus and me asked him to do any job oriented course like, hotel mgt, printing etc.. but he said that he isnot interested. and when we r telling this ils also dont like it. bcoz they always says that he can do whatever he likes and it is ok with them. so we dont say any more regarding his study. last year he had a job in this city but resigned ittelling some silly excuses. at that time my hus said something in angry and mil replied that : \" dont interfere in his matters, since u r not taking care of him\"
last time when they were here i just ignored them. i didnt talk to them if not necessary. so i think this time also i can adopt the same attitude. they arenot considering me as a daughter then y should i consider them as my own parents. but i know being the eldest dil, it is my duty to take care of them. i am ready to do it (of course not out of love, but for my hus)
as Mel said, i know that it is my hus who is suffering in between us. so i used to say the things my ils had done and spoken to me in his absence , but not as any complaints. i used to say to him \" i am just informing u these things and dont want u ask them y they have done so\"

well friends, once again thank you very much. i am a bit busy now. will c u soon
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2008-06-20
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Anonymous Name: Namita
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good u spoke to ur husband ... i have mentioned this earlier also, if we have husbands support v can ignore IL' s bad behaviour .... concentrate on ur realtionship .... happy for u :)
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