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Hi guys,i have a big problem with my mil i really need some advice from u people to go the things in rightway. my mil,she is very talented to do the things however and whatever she want´ s.


when my husband call my mil she talks very sadly(loosing something) so my husband ask her lot of times to know the reason why she is like that, so she cries for sometime and start say the things angryly, sometimes slowly then my husband ready to do whatever she wants.my husband is big senti and mom' s baby. it´ s really irritating me,she always want something related to our money. somebody said in this board, my inlaws also din´ t do anything for my husband but still he is doing lot of things(built a house, reasently he bought a car, bank balance for both,bike for his brother and also special gifts for all) to feel them good. he married me with his own money they even din' t spent 1np for marriage.


my fil doing a good job and also earning rent but they din' t spend any of their money still they r not at all satisfied and they even talk well with my husband. right now my mil is again ready to ask money for something i really don´ t know what to do?


i explained to my husband lot of times about money and spending he will say ok and won´ t do that again but when my mil ask him he is not able to say don´ t so the things happend again and again.coz of this iam getting angry and iam loosing my patience.

guys help me out from this, iam so tired of all these.

suha replied. Hi guys,

thanks for advices, we r staying in usaand we have a baby boy(1 year old)My husband is so cool,he is very planning, caring and loving for my baby and me and also he is very bhola he will tell everything to my in-laws what we done financially (investments, buying property) so they will ask money. if he talk like no or i can' t then they keep it in their minds and start blackmailing like don' t talk to him properly, mil cries and they agony him(i think crying is the best way to get the things favorably), i know he can' t bare them so he start paying whatever they want. then they happy and talk good. i really don' t like this everytime crying and not talking. my husband also get angry for this but we know this is routine for us, it happens everytime.

personally we don' t have big issues we r loving each other and doing good for both.just coz of them we r losing good days in our lives.

u guys gave me some good advises but i need some more to rescue from my mil crying.

thanks
Suha kanta replied. dear suha,

sad to know that ur inlaws extort money from u ppl even when they r financially sound n earning.
how r ur relations with ur hubby ? is loving careing, a good husband ? does he looks after u n takes care of ur needs? If he is good to u then u should handle this situation smartly. see the the point is to remain cheerful, no fighting with ur hubby for money sending to mil. instead of pointing out that he is doing wrong by sending money again n again, u should divert the flow of money to other activities cleverly. explore the money investment ideas like buying property jointly in hubby' s n ur name, child education fund, medical/ life insurance etc. talk casually to him, say that u read/heard somewhere abt such n such policies, n wish to plan financial saving for ur future. say that it makes u feel secure for emergencies in future if u get such things done. best is hire a financial consultant, that person will guide u to make best investment. if this could be done, then it will serve two purpose: ur family' s future is secured financially and second if no ready surplus cash is available then flow of money to mil will reduce automatically. Namita replied. i dnt knw wht can we do?

husband is responsible for this situation... he is the only one who can keep control .. bcoz of husbands nature they are taking him on ride ...

somehow i could convince my husband abt wht IL' s were doing or he was smart enough to understand himself

now u shud show ur husband how ur MIL is behaving double standard (bt b careful) ... u have not said much abt u, whthr u stay with them etc etc

which will help to give specific reply