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my life is totally different ...Afer marriage i came to know that my husband' s family is affected from muscular dystrophy(it means that it will show symptoms to male members at thae age of 30 to 40 and slowly reduces their muscles and atlast they will sit and they cant get up and do their things)now my husband is 30 and he is npt able to lift his hand but everything is alright and he is saying that he will probably sit down at 40 to 45 .iam not working and iam having one kid of 18 monthsand there is hardly 10 years for us to settl and we r having loan of 25 lakhs....now my father inlaw ,mother in law and also brother inlaw ,sistrinlaw are fully dependant on us.my brother in law is 25 andd he is not able to walk.....everybody is fully dependant on us....iam totally frustated with this life abt how we r able to come out and make money to our child ....can u help me please....... NSS replied. Remember, God forbid, if your child may already have gotten this disease through your husband, This whole saga is going to repeat for him/her too.

So do all good deeds and make sure Karma doesn' t come back to bite you. Try to do some kind of work, obviously you are computer literate, try to do some part-time work and get extra money to support the family. Try any goverment agencies for help as well. Ceck internet for resources on the disease and check for any agencies providing support of any kind.

Good Luck! Namita replied. i agree with light and as hi suggested abt. business, it need not b something big ... u can start making tiffins or a small stationary shop or purchase a metador or a van and drop school going children hi replied. hi dear
want to add one more thing. you can start working or if it is not possible start a bussiness which you can run. so anyway be bright and think . life is full of oppurtunities and promises. let the new year brings you happiness properity and good health. hi replied. hi friend

me too agree with light. you got a great answer . dear friend i don' t know how much of a believer are you. but let me tell you everything happens for a purpose and a reason. and we have a lot of help from GOD. and HE will help us if we really ask. do what feels right tou you and pray and true in mind. you will overcome evrything. everything. you have the power from GOD for that. so whatever decesion you take(after thinking much) be firm on it and strong. don' t repent or be sad. you are a brave woman and can create a wonderful life for your dear ones. GOD give you an oppurtunity fior that. and he is sure you can do it. only thing is move ahead with confidence and prayers and most of all LOVE. love you and may GOD bless you and your family my dear friend Dd replied. I agree with what light is suggesting.
explore medicle treatment options further to help your husband & his family. I am firm beleiver of aurvedic treatments and it sure can help you. so find genuin aurvedic doctor in your city & take his advice. light replied. hi upa,
first of all,kudos to such a brave woman who is willing to fight the difficulties of life.
see,wat u make outta ur life is all upto u...it will all depend on ur perspective and ur vision.u have a couple of options--
1.divorce ur husband and live with ur child.u can earn and sum up for him and secure his future.
2.if u really love ur husband and ur inlaws,and really wanna help thm out,u need to work out an action oriented plan for ur goals and work upto thm accordingly.also,u must try and take all preventive measures to ensure that ur husband can live his life without getting too much affected by the problem.imean right from now u can try and consult some good docs and see wat all preventive/medical options u have.also,perhaps u can sit and analyse ur financial goals and work out how much u need.and thn may be take help from ur mother in law and brother inlaw.remember,even a small contribution from them will mean a lot to u psychologically.
watever u do,always remember that if u do something willingly,u will be happy....but if u do something under pressure,or unwillingness,u will never b happy.its in ur hands only to make all possible efforts and leave the rest to god.
i know,to do all tht i have written about is not an easy task at all....but still,we need to stand up and be strong.
take care and wish u all the best.