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Hi,
I live in the U.S with my husband and baby. My husband's brother and his wife live in India. They act very competitive, insecure, jealous and petty.

If I say something nice about my life here, my baby etc. and don't say anything bad about their life, they still view it as competition.

They compare their life with mine on every account. And make it seem like the only reason I do well is because I'm in the U.S. For e.g. I did not have bed rest during my pregnancy, and she claims that is because U.S has better road conditions!!

My co-sister cannot stand it if I have a friendly conversation with my mom-in-law in her presence, and makes mean remarks to both of us.

I just get stunned whenever my co-sister says mean things during my visits. I'm not able to say anything back, and get irritated with myself later for that.

I plan to interact with them only when my husband is also present. He has said that he will take care of her mean comments. He also snubs them whenever they behave badly.

My husband and I have tried hard to build a better relationship with them. But now we feel tired and have stepped back.

Do do you guys cope with such co-sister problems? I find myself becoming like them and feeling like competing. I want to be a better person than that.

How do you guys deal with such co-sister issues? I would really appreciate your response.

Thanks. damini replied. hi,
my SIL is just the same..though she stay far from us, but she is very much jealous of my carrer as i am a software engineer n she is a teacher..she always tries to show in front of my in-laws, my husband and other relatives that the girls who work full time cant take care of their families and children.she has influences my husbands cousins so much that all have opted to go in for teaching and not taking a proffessional course...she always tries to show that she is good and cares a lot for her in-laws.but i have found a good trick now.as i know she is jealous of my every good thing, i try to improve myself more to make her feel more jealous...
i think the best way is to improve ur life very much...
bye,
damini @@@ replied. Hey, My jethani is like this too. As all the fingers in the hand are not the same so are the people. My SIL is also one like yours but my husband's brother is very good and loves us a lot.

Actually I find this very childish, can you believe it for my wedding she bought the same jewellary, clothes everything similar. My wedding ring was bought in two one for me and one for her. Leave it, these things of course irritate us but we have to have a big heart. Do not change yourself if others are bad you try to remain Good always.

Why I am telling you to be Good is that one time in life our children follow us and I don not want mine to be jealous or competitve just because a person changed my personality. Ignore these kind of people and just perform your duty. Before my children I never mention anything against about my MIL or SIL. Let us keep their innocence and for them keep bearing it. The only happiness is that we are far away from them and visit them ocassionally. Remain cool, work hard and live for your children!!!!!! Ignore them.....