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Hi Im married fr 3 yrs staying in a joint family that is my BiL his wife, kid and parents in law. My husbands eldest bro and family stays in the US with family for the past 4 years.
Soon after our wedding my eldest BiL from the US came and bought a house and asked our whole family to move into the house as we were in a rented place. After moving I realised that both my husband and his younger bro were expected to pay a RENT of 6k fr the room that we stay in . I ws ahocked that how could a brother expect rent from his younger bro' s fr the room they have been staying. So we paid rent fr almost 3 yrs now. Even if we miss out paying fr a month he immeadiately calls from the US and yells at my husband sayin if u were out and paying rent to ur owner, will ur owner stay quiet if u miss out on a month?
Me and my husband earn moderately and our ends barely meet. And now we are going in fr some real expensive fertility treatments in a couple of months.my husband very conveniently puts all the treatment expenses on my head while he pays the rent n stuff.
I somehow want to stop this rent business so we can concentrate on our treatment better. But my husband is very scared of his elder bro and no way will he agree to stop.
My BIL from uS will be coming dn in july fr his yearly vacation and i want to put and end to this rent isssue then...

Pleeeease advise how.....
Ritika replied. What is it you want from yr BIL? Should you not give any rent? or do you want to pay a lesser amt than 6K?

Is your husband and other BIL together paying 6 k? or is it 6K each?

Can you talk to yr BIL' s wife and tell her that you are going in for some fertility treatment that is going to cost you a lot...and can you pay the rent after the treatment is done?

Also can you look for a rented house where you have to pay what you can afford?

Maybe yr BIL also cant afford to subsidize his brother' s families any more? He must be married and might be having kids and has expenses for his family too... Maybe he' s cutting his immediate family' s expenses and supporting his parents and brothers?

What I' m saying is that it would be nice if yr bil didnt ask for a single paisa, but really, it does sound as if he is doing a lot for his family (never mind his hitlershahi words)...and again he is under no obligation to do so...

Your husband and you shd find a new place if you cant afford to stay in BIL' s house.

But if you do want to stay in yr current place, then I would talk to his wife..maybe she can talk to her husband ( yr BIL) and convince him to not let you guys pay for a few months so that you can afford the treatment...



Poppy replied. I live in the USA and I have two homes in India. Both are rent free for my in-laws and my parents. They can do whatever they want and we do not even keep track. Your BIL (the US guy) is strange. Shameful behavior! Why did he not tell you before you moved to his home that he expects rent from his own family? Also, how much were you paying for your previous rental? If your husband and his brother cooperate, then you all should move out. The two younger brothers must be angry with that US guy too. Talk to your family peacefully and get their joint opinion. Keep pushing the idea of moving out PEACEFULLY. You cannot go very far by intimidating or blaming anyone. Make your case to your family with numbers and show them clearly how it is unnecessary to live there. It is like any other rental. Let your US BIL find someone else.