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Hi frds

if anyone else also experienced this kinda situation so pls give ur opinion....

Mine was a arranged marriage... since beginning there were frequent fights are our home.... MIL always compaling I dont cook well, dont give salary at home..... mainly younger SIL who is married used to fill her ears...

In last three year you won' t believe where ever my married SIL came at our home there use to be a big fight bec of one of the other reasons... My MIl always took her side and use to fill my hubby ears against me and than eventully i dont talk to her for 2-3 months (i live upsatirs/ separte kitchen after 3 months of marriage)

just 2 months back when my SIL came again (she always comes to stay for not less than one month) for some reason they both fought with me used very very abusive language and this tm it was limit for me so i slapped her..... Than again i stopped talking to my MIL for 2 months...

just recently my MIL fell down in bathroom and was screaming for help... i heard and came for help.. also called hubby too....

than after 2-3 days my FIL fell down :( and had serious injury now on COMPLETE bed rest for 6 month ......
I helped at my level best.... cooked for them... going to hospital and all..... giving him fruits and lunch..... means helping MIL in every possible way 9 i m working too)...

NOW TWIST IN THE STORY IS, when this SIL came (she is still here) , she could n' t digest me & my MIL gd equation and again strted comenting on me and fought with me BUT BUT BUT surprisingly this tm my MIL TOOK MY SIDE , yes even she said u go back to ur home and raised her hand also to slap her .. siad that why u everytm come and fight???? ..... result is he felt very insulted that her mom took my side and havn' t had food for complete one day and frm lat 2-03 days fighting with his mother for taking my side...

NOW MY Question is ... is my MIL geninuely changed or thinking that only my son and DIL wd help me as she too has a prob in walking and all (tooo bulky) and FIL on Bed so now at gd tm to fight with DIL.....

I AM too surprised and not able to digest her gd attitude towards me .. sudden change in her...

if anybody else exprisenced the same situation pls tell ur views frds.... is this temp till my FIL gets fine and take the responsibilty of home (as now she has become completly dependent on us for grocessary.. milk... fruits...or any other thing)
i told her indirectly in place of FIL if she was on bed than wd her daughter be able to come and stay here with her for 3-4 months.... only DIL do sewa not daughter as they hv the respsibilty of their home also....

DONT KNOW WHAT HAS CHANGED HER MIND>... AND WILL SHE REMAIN SAME WHEN MY FIL RECOVERS FRM INJURY

thanks

HP
help replied. hi HH,
wat ever is the reason of ur mil' s changed behaviour BUT this time like a good human being (insaniyat) u help them just think if therehave been somebody else in their place u cud have been helped them like this .

ive heard that love and care change ppl and i think as per present situation thisis true in ur case.
chalo enjoy the love
bye dia replied. Hi HH,

Ur story reminded me an oldtime movie' s formula. Kidding!!
Anyway, Congrats.

My best friend also was similarly suffering frm MIL.Almost 10years she had to suffer frm her tantrums. But that MIL came on visit to USA and stayed for 2months ...Then after she went INDIA ,She suddenly changed good towards my friend and started calling this friend' s parents and praising them for teaching her good values and all. She became very very positive (before to that , MIL used to avoid friend' s parents in any function and used to fill son' s ears against them) .But imagine that kind of lady turning too soft and calling the same persons and praising them!!

My friend was shocked to see this side of her and initially she suspected that she must be again with some plaan and behaving extra nice. But it' s been 2yrs and till now, behaviour has not at all changed.She is so sweet to DIL .

So same must have happened to u. She must have realised ur importance.Or might be in need for some more days ,so behaving this way.
Anyway u keep urself cool and be in ur limits. Dont commit to anything. U can live without them. But they can' t live without u ,right? So dont worry that ur FIL gets well.

Before to this incident u lived a life without them and even after this u' ll lead same life but at least u have strong point now to suport urself and MIL has to repent for getting ur help(In case ,if she ever want to take ur SIL' s side next time).

Ok HH, Be happy and dont believe in completely. Help them as u can but still maintain little distance .