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Role of in-laws:How I dealt with bad Inlaws

2006-09-09

Name: fdgd fdgdf We are in the US. I have only a mil, fil died earlier. But MIL is bad enough. Typical indian mom in law-nosy, listening on my conversations with my husband, rummaging thru my clothes, spreading gossip about me to neighbors(that me and husband were going to divorce!!!), my husband was furious when he heard that..stupid me, told me much later only..

Now when I go to India, I dont visit her..she calls me tearfully on the phone to come and visit(I know what I will get when I go there)..but I tell her that I will call her later and bang the phone down..all my relatives know I dont visit her and they never say anything about it.

Hubby is a bit sad but he has accepted it. Even if he didnt accept it I would have done the same thing..

Bad MILS deserve figurative slaps like this. India is changing and women should not be treated badly..STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHTS AND RESPECT and you will earn it

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We are in the US. I have only a mil, fil died earlier. But MIL is bad enough. Typical indian mom in law-nosy, listening on my conversations with my husband, rummaging thru my clothes, spreading gossip about me to neighbors(that me and husband were going to divorce!!!), my husband was furious when he heard that..stupid me, told me much later only..

Now when I go to India, I dont visit her..she calls me tearfully on the phone to come and visit(I know what I will get when I go there)..but I tell her that I will call her later and bang the phone down..all my relatives know I dont visit her and they never say anything about it.

Hubby is a bit sad but he has accepted it. Even if he didnt accept it I would have done the same thing..

Bad MILS deserve figurative slaps like this. India is changing and women should not be treated badly..STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHTS AND RESPECT and you will earn it karma replied. Give it to your mil good.

Although you may want to keep in mind..

\" Keep your enemies close\" ... adi replied. wud you like your mom 2 b treated like that
no matter ure relatives dont say anything but sympathy will always go with your mom in law
visit her as if your obliging her
No need to be mil fearing BUT be GOD fearing kk replied. I may sound a little out of place.. but I really cannot digest this kind of beheaviour from this generation woman. I understand that you r are deeply hurt by your MIL's behaviour.

But is this the way of treating the mother of your husband. Shouldn't we being highly educated be more considerate towards fellow human. Shouldn't we be more polite and understanding ?.

I don't say accept her and ADJUST, but definitely don't IGNORE TOTALLY and don't seperate her son from her.

my 2 cents
k kuntala replied. Agreed bad mils deserve figurative slaps. But don't tell women should be treated good just because India is changing. Only good women deserve good treatment and bad women deserve bad treatment. Hence please dont generalise. Even your mil is a woman, when she is so bad, why does she need to be treated good. If she is so good let her get her treatment in heaven and not from us. sr replied. Good on ya girl.
You're lucky you dont have to see the face of your one anymore. I dont know for how long I will be stuck with mine. NULLNULLNULL replied. oh good for u. keep up the good work. don't let ur kids go anywhere near that horrible woman. try to stop ur hubby also from seeing his mom.u all shd be seeing only ur parents & not his mom. even when she dies don't go. grudes shd be kept till the end...right?

2006-09-17

Name: karma
Subject:

Good for you.

Give it to your mil good.

Although you may want to keep in mind..

\" Keep your enemies close\" ...

2006-09-14

Name: adi
Subject:

thats bad

wud you like your mom 2 b treated like that
no matter ure relatives dont say anything but sympathy will always go with your mom in law
visit her as if your obliging her
No need to be mil fearing BUT be GOD fearing

2006-09-11

Name: kk
Subject:

I DON't APPRECIATE

I may sound a little out of place.. but I really cannot digest this kind of beheaviour from this generation woman. I understand that you r are deeply hurt by your MIL's behaviour.

But is this the way of treating the mother of your husband. Shouldn't we being highly educated be more considerate towards fellow human. Shouldn't we be more polite and understanding ?.

I don't say accept her and ADJUST, but definitely don't IGNORE TOTALLY and don't seperate her son from her.

my 2 cents
k

2006-09-17

Name: Wowie
Subject:

Did you read the message?

Does it say in the message that fdd..is seperating her husband from his mom...??

2006-09-11

Name: kuntala
Subject:

Give respect to those who deserve

Agreed bad mils deserve figurative slaps. But don't tell women should be treated good just because India is changing. Only good women deserve good treatment and bad women deserve bad treatment. Hence please dont generalise. Even your mil is a woman, when she is so bad, why does she need to be treated good. If she is so good let her get her treatment in heaven and not from us.

2006-09-11

Name: sr
Subject:

Good on ya

Good on ya girl.
You're lucky you dont have to see the face of your one anymore. I dont know for how long I will be stuck with mine.

2006-09-11

Name: NULLNULLNULL
Subject:

RE:

oh good for u. keep up the good work. don't let ur kids go anywhere near that horrible woman. try to stop ur hubby also from seeing his mom.u all shd be seeing only ur parents & not his mom. even when she dies don't go. grudes shd be kept till the end...right?

2006-09-17

Name: zimba
Subject:

Yes grudges should be kept

Especially if the person is MIL..

You must be a man..will never understand..thats why you suffer

2006-09-11

Name: NULL
Subject:

Good one!

Well said.

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