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Role of in-laws:Question about solution

2006-09-04

Name: EO So being reserved looks like one solution.
But what to do when Husband goes on doing heavy gifting & money lending, for maintaining HIS relationship with them? We cant stop him...can we?

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2006-09-05

Name: swati
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hi!!

i think ignoring is the best approach when they r visiting- talking to the minimal otherwise if u get freindly they'll utter some nonsense or the other. But be nice when your husband is around - talk nicely.
For money, gifts are ok but if money lending doesn't stop start investing yourself. Invest in an expensive house so that the mortgage is real high and your husband spends money in the house. Or invest in children's education or retirement funds 401k or even on car installments. Just find alternative ways to spend the money so once your husband sees that he has nothing left - he would send the inlaws less money.

2006-09-05

Name: EO
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More to it

My hubby doesnt really initiate lending money, only gifts(expensive ones) but then PILscold him and say things u guys cant imagine..right from his birth to their deaths...he cant bear to hear all that and gives away...I have no idea what should I do...

2006-09-04

Name: Raj
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you can give a try

initially dont bug your husband even if he spends on your inlaws,but you dont do it.slowly after some time when he will see you withdrawn from his people,it will make him tend to.at the same time try to divert his attention to your identity,your house,any renovation or any new thing to be bought in the house or a long vaccation.develop the moral values of charity to him,he will realise there are so many people in the world who really need help.so my dear friend try working on it and all the best

2006-09-04

Name: Maggie
Subject:

i know

I know what you are going thru! I am in th esame boat. Any solutions please??

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