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Hi,

Please anyone suggest me what to do....I have started sending my child to the pre school and he is not ready to adjust with the teachers and students out there. Till the time he is in school without me around...he will cry. Be it 1 hr or 2 hr. He is very happy when I am there and want to play with the toys when I am around.

Also its not that he is with me all day...he goes to the park with the mail and plays there with the kids.

Please anyone advice how to stop his cries in the school.

Thanks in advance pre school replied. Hi,

Thanks a lot to everybody for their advice.

This is the third week since my son started going to play school. First two week I was there but not in his class. This week I left him there and came back and believe me its getting worst day by day...all the bribing are not working at him now. Other kids in his class have adjusted but he is not trying at all.

Please advice Priya replied. I put my daughter to school when she was 1 year 8 months. She was initially accompanied by my mother n my MIL but only for 10 days. Then she used to cry for sometime after I used to leave her there. Now it is 4 months since she is going there but very rarely she cries otherwise she has got adjusted there. But it took me more than 3 months time for her to get adjusted . But now she is alright. sweta replied. Dear Friend,
While reading ur message I felt as if I am reading my own story.My son had the same problem . Let me tell you what I did.

I believe ur kid is 2+ , as he is going preschool ... I think he is definitely understand what you will tell him . So talk to him as much as you can . When you take him to sleep tell him all the good things about school,ask him what he does there, tell him small story abt school which he will understand. tell him mama has to go to office ... etc etc ...
I did one trick that worked , when he goes to school I give him one photo of God in his hand, and I tell him he is there with you so you don' t cry.
My son loves God alot....

I can understand your pain...
Just be patient and bold . Thing will fall in place. charu replied. Hi,
Iam a mother who posted the same message i month ago.
But u didnt mention since when he is going to school.
and in my daughters(2 years) school parents were not allowed in even a day
but she cried for 2 days then slowly started adjusting and now she want to go school.
talk to school teachers there and i think they can suggest some way.
Do not worry he will get adjusted one day or another
All the best Tony S replied. Dear pre school,
Your child probably has not liked the new school. dont be disheartened. the new environment, new people are all making him feel insecure. if he is happy with the maid that is because he is safe a thome and in the neighbourhood. can do ask the maid to be with him when he goes to school for a few days ? then slowly once he starts adjusting, u can stop doing this, but take iot v. v. slow. The child should not feel that my mother just leaves me and goes away. ANyways, when u r in the preschool with him, try to help him make friends with other kids there. Excite him with colourful tiffin box, water bottle etc. and give him what he loves to eat - so th at he has something interesting waiting for him when u mention ' school' . Also when u return to pick him up, promise him a ride at the playpen/funzone/new park or any such thing so that he knows there is something good after school. But slowly do this becoz it should not become a habit. And at no point of time give him the impression that u are trying to butter him so that he stops crying becoz then he will know mummy is scared of my crying, so i can have anything i want by simply crying !!!!! all the best.