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I am a working mom and a busy superspeciaist doc.
My husband is also a very busy doc and both of us arein an academic institution and a very hectic workstyle. We ahve 2 kids aged 41/2 and 1yr. Since we are both very conscious abt child care, and my parents ahve been more than willing to stay with us and take carre of kids, they are taking care fo teh children during the working hrs.I try my best to give them my time whenever i get home say after 5.30pm and sat afternoons and sundays and teh same with my husband, though he comes late in evenings. Of late after the second child is born, i feel guilty for leaving teh children and coming to work plus for my parents. To ease trheir work, i ahve 2 maids o do all physical work.I feel guilty for not taking charge of the huse and let it be run by my parents even after 2 kids. Though I love my work, and my pateints are very ahppy with me, i feel my role as a mom is more important. I am torn between the 2 roles. My siblings keep encouraging that iam doing my best. my husband is very keen that i work and keep myself busy, he feels that all the years of hardwork should bnot go waste. Is it o.k to do full time work and take good care of children in the available time
what do experts in childcare feel abt it? jayanthi replied. you have got a very good life.your family is doing a great job for you. and you have a wonderful proffesion.very rare persons will get such life.you please continue with what you are doing. don`t feel guilty.
your children is taken care by your parents only.so don`t worry.you continue with what you are doing and enjoy doing it. all the best. avj replied. Hi Jeyapati,
I think you should continue to work. Do not feel guilty about going to work and leaving your children behind. They are only under your parent's care. I am sure since you reduced the physical stress for your parents they must be okay with taking care of their GCs. My parents always want to feel needed. Like your husband suggests years of hardwork should not be wasted. When you children grow up and talk about their mother, they will sound proud that you are a doctor. You are doing the best you can and that is all is required. Don't overwork yourself.

If you still feel the need to work, try part time. You are lucky to have a supportive family and supportive husband. Think of what you are doing as a social service. kulwinder replied. This precious time of children will not come again. You should enjoy it. otherwise you will always feel guily. U have no financial problems so don't ignore your kids please.