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hi i am posting for the first time .dont know who to spk to my problem is that i too like many live with my in laws and sil my husband is the only son and we have a business my father in law also is in the business i live with my inlaws for 7 yrs now .my husband is not a mamas boy like many .in fact if i have a problem with my mil and i tell him he confronts her and tells her why she passes sarcastic comments.the problem is i cant even have a general talk to him as a wife not necessary he has to tellthem everything as it results in big fights sometimes just out of sheer depression or a general talk i tell him something and he tells my mil why she told me like this and my mil says she was generally talking and didnt pass any comment this does not create a very good impresssion abt me she thinks i talk behind her back.well she also tells my fil everything.what shud i do should i tell my husband if she taunts me coz i dont like fights as whenever there is a fight they say that they will leave the hse and go away .my husband says i am too scared of my mil and she takes full advantage of that and that i should not keep quiet and should ans back .i dont now what to do pls help >>> SR replied. Well.. there you go.... do as your husband says..
He is telling you to answer back to your MIL so you do that!!!
Once you do that, she will stop harrassing you. savitha replied. you are correct. do tell your hubby everything, but maybe you shd change the tone of your complaints. also try & have some general talks with your hubby. develop some hobby. i presume you r a housewife. read books if u r into reading books, find some mutual interest with ur hubby & u will hv lots to discuss. also tell ur hubby, not just to simply blast his mom for her accusing u. this will defenitely put u in a bad light. be diplomatic as living in a joint family needs lots of tact, understaniding & care also. good luck!