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i have a son who is 3.5 yrs old.My husband is posted at site which is very small and doesnot have an international school he has no activities he cannot go play bcoz of lang prob I try do things but he is most interested in watching cartoons etc but when he is with other people he behaves as he is very rude he will take all the toys and not let others play or hit chilren wwhen their mothers r not looking does not want to read or write Im so tired and do not want to take him to anybodys place I dont know where am i going wrong plz plz somebody suggest so that i can handle him well make him sensible plz mascarenhas replied. Shweta,have you tried praising him for behaviors which are acceptable. start with that first then read to him at night, books that speak about good values and are short and pictorial. at the same time get him evaluated from a psychologist.start time scheduling with him as far as t.v. is concerned. make a time table with him and involve him in the making of it. give him small tasks like backing his bag. if you can take him to a garden and play with him there it would be good. teach him cooperative play as in play with him and take turns. it could be catching the ball or anything. you need to teach him to play cooperatively with u and ur husband first before involving another child. children learn from observation so do not encourage rude behavior towards u. teach him the right way to behave by saying please, thank you, sorry infront of him. in fact have a game where in everybody at home would use the three little magic words whenever possible and if used then reinforce that person with a big hug, clap or anything that individual likes. Venus replied. Firstly all single children have no inclination to share. Try rewarding him for good behaviour.
Then every night make it a habit to read to him, start with fairy tales, also ones of heroic and valour. Alladin, beauty & beast etc.
boys usually have lot of energy, and therefore need lot of outdoor activities. Take him for walks, or to the market and point out of things as you go. Help him carry few things and put it in its proper palce when back home.
Even if he has language problem, I am sure you can find out some other decent families with kids and let him play. Children have great communicative skills, so don't worry.
And remember, always reward him for good behavious with praise, hug, chocolate, or even a small toy!