Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

hi pari,
ye last saturday i went to shirdi( I hope u know) withmy Sil. My mother in law had asked god for this wish and we all had gone offer something to saibaba. then on sunday my husband had called to congratulate them frm the ship.then again tommorow she is to go for her first sonogrsphy.
i wishh her good luck.
but u r right i simply didnt realise that all this must be the cause for me going more into depression.but this will now always keep happening . because she is family, so there is no way ican keep away frm her for long time.
pari i understand what happened to u was much terrible. but please dont stop praying.beleive me god has got lots of power.he will take care of u too and make u happy by granting ur wish .
iwill pray for u.
what do u do? r u working ? how old r u? from where r u originally?
thanks for being a friend.
bye Priya replied. No offence taken Pari. Let me tall you something are you angry at god or at yourself? God id there and he is the one who creates these beautiful creations.wWhy is it that we always go to him when we need something, why can we not do something in return for him.Maybe i may not know how greiving for a child maybe but one thing is for sure that it never hurt to help others less fortunate then us. Their are ppl out there who have children but are so poor that they cannot feed them and they pass away.If we help we will get help in return. Dont forget humanity is a big thing it makes you realise that we are little ants in the big world.
Priya.
Doing things for others only helps you and your peace of mind being angry at god brings negative energy and that does not help you concieve. pari replied. ya i know how it feels. and of course, i know shirdi..im from india only.
and im sure u wish all the luck to ur SIL but stil feel bad bout urself. u know, we had three people from our batch in my city. i was the first one to conceive...now one of them already has a baby and the other one is due...
i was apprehensive about the first friend's first u/s...wotever happened to me...i dont want that to happen to ANYONE in the world...but still when her u/s came ok..i wept a lot!! i congratulated her on phone on the birth of her baby. but couldnt gather the courage to visit her. i didnt want to create a scene or show tat im not happy about her baby!! luckily, we came to US before i could get time to visit her. but there is no escape.
recently we went to a kid's birthday party...his mother is expecting a second one..everyone there was with small kids...everyone was talking bout their kids...i was kinda left alone...people manage to get 2 or more but i dont even have a single one...
we didnt even get a return gift bcoz that was only for kids...:-) so all the families had at least one gift in their hand...that reminded me more of the baby i lost.
thanks for praying for me.
i am a 26 year old housewife.
ok then keep in touch,
love,
pari.