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It' s being about 4 years that I and my husband are married and this low libido issue has always been with us. I have to admit before marriage, I had sexual relationships and I feel no shame in saying so. I am very open about these things and this was the first thing I discussed with my partner. While some of you might already start thinking THIS can be a problem, it' s not. My hubby appreciates me coming out about things like this and more and has no problem with my past. He does not even feel jealous if I speak to other men. He encourages it and think it' s best we be friends with people around rather than not. We trust each other and not to mention, love each other.Since the very first day, he has never shown any interest in sex and takes that for granted. I kept on sucking it up because I thought I will just give it time and that if I push it, it will only make it worse as it is such a sensitive topic.It never seems to get better. If ever I question him, he keeps very still..not a word out of his mouth. That frustrates me even more. I really never could get a solution to this. We both want a baby and I am 30 now, but as usual no sex drive. I have tried everything in my power to deal this with love,passion,understanding and what not for him. I was never so patient in my life, but I have shown so much strength. This still goes nowhere. I cant believe he would just see me suffer and do nothing to address it. It has come to a point that I badly want a baby, because of my depression, I even had false pregnancy, where a woman' s mind tells herself she is pregnant as she madly wants a child, but in reality she is not. It has been so long and my husband has no realization of any of this. I do not know what more I can do. I want a baby so badly, so I will have someone to love and care. Can anyone please help me. I am posting after I tried everything possible. Dippy replied. I m from Mumbai looking for real, decent and well natured couple. Money seekers sorry Roopa replied. Hello, there. Hope you're okay. I can understand your situation. I know it's really hard. But, don't lose hope, alright? I know male infertility isn't very commonly known. But, it exists, all the same. Tell him, there's no shame in it. A lot of people get treated. He should go for the treatment. Good luck to both of you. I hope you get good news, soon. My prayers are with both of you! Olivia replied. hello there, how are you? Hope you are doing okay. I feel bad for you. Male infertility is the worst. Majority don't accept this fact. They blame woman for infertility. Have you guys consulted a doctor? This might be cured. You need to consult a good doctor. Talk to your husband. Tell him how you feel. He might consider the option of getting treatment. I hope everything will be okay for you soon. I am praying for you. Keep updating us about your situation. Good luck Kalpana replied. Hey, there. How are you doing? I hope you're alright. This is awful. You don't deserve this, honey. Male infertility is horrible. It's just so sad. They don't even accept it. Have you guys tried going for treatments? There are a lot of methods now. You could have luck with them. Talk to your husband. He might consider them. Good luck to you. Please don't lose the faith. Fingers crossed, it happens! My prayers are with you. Solution replied. Hi Priya,
Pls send me your and his birth details, viz name, DOB, place and time of birth.
God bless you.. Laxmi replied. Hello dear no need to beg so much just move and then see the reaction these mens are like this only they do not bother and they behave very weird so please stop this and just move on and then see the reaction, All the best dear for your future. Vinayak replied. Hi dear this is really sad to know that you are going through so much pain and in this you are all alone, please do not mind but where is your husbands parents are they not staying with you guys at least share this with them so that they can help you in this. Vikas replied. Hello madam if i would be in your place i would have waited for my husband and speak to him in a very good manner and would have asked whether there is any problem in me or what is that suddenly there is a change in the behaviour. All the best dear. Vviek replied. Hello dear this is not a good sign and i can see that your relationship is going for a toss, please sit with your husband and please solve the problem as soon as possible as this way you will never be happy and you will not full fill your dream as well. Vinita replied. Hi divya if you do not mind please share me your number so that i can understand few more things and would like to guide you in this matter as i know how to solve this problem. please feel free to share me your details and would definitely help you in this matter. Vinay replied. Hi dear this is really sad to see what is going on in your life but then you are not alone according to me this everyone's life story and you should not take this that seriously and should ignore such things to some extend, rest is your wish and your call. Vijay replied. Hello madam this is really sad to see but then you are really lucky enough that your husband has accepted you as it is you are, so please sit with your husband and would be great if you guys try to solve this problem in within itself. All the best dear. Priya replied. Oh dear this is really not good for you and i can understand that you are looking for love which you are not getting in return but then its two way and i am sure that you must also be in some wrong way as suddenly your husband cannot stop loving you. Preeti replied. Hello dear this is really not acceptable and i think you should fight for your rights and should not leave this like this as if you will not fight now then you cannot in future as well so please take a bold step and fight for it as its your life. Pooja replied. Hello dear this is really saddening to see that you are suffering so much and why are you going through this, please visit a good orphanage and just try to adopt a child by this way you will be blessed with a beautiful child and all happiness around you. Pari replied. Oh my god this post is really shocking and i must say that you have guts to stay like this and you are really a hero in your life, please do not feel bad but then you are making life miserable for yourself as your husband will not love you anymore thats for sure. Shreeja replied. Hello dear this is really sad to see that you are suffering so much and for what just expecting some love from your husband that is really natural, please do not worry as god is great and i am sure everything will be back to normal very soon. Sarita replied. Hello dear if i would be in your place i would have definitely not stay with him and would file foe a divorce as this is not done and he has no rights to play with my life so please speak to some one elder in your family and just take the decision and move on. Seema replied. Oh my god this is insane and why are you suffering so much why cant you act on it, please speak to your husband and ask if you are really not looking for a future together then please take a decision and move on as its not worth staying together and suffering alone. Shikha replied. Oh dear this is really painful thing to see and i am sure you are really strong enough to go through all such issues, but please strong and fight for it as god is great and i am sure you will not left alone and you will be blessed with a child be positive.