Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

hi all,
I came across this discussion board by fluke. Now i feel may be it was a blessing in disguise for me to handle the present situation.Before i used to feel lone , although there are people who understand like parents , siblings , in laws etc.but the person who goes thru the situation only knows his sorrow.
My younger sister in laws pregnancy news left me broken. not that i wish bad for her. but i had thought i was supposed to be before her. and whatt mistake i have done.i kept crynig for so many days.And since i stay alone away frm my husband i suffered all alone.Infront of even parents and inlaws i show a smiling face cause i dont want to bother them.
even now i do get depressed and cry a lot. but while going thru other messages i know im not alone.i atleastr have some people to share my feelings and the situation. i know one day everybodys dream will be fulfilles. it smatter of time may be. i also request all my friends here to pray to god very hard. there is lot of power in praying.it will grant our wish.
bye pari replied. hi sonia!
did something happen again...i feel people with our experiences are normal most of the time but sometimes some particular episodes just trigger off the grief. did ur SIL come for a visit or did she give u a call? its true im sad all the time but i dont keep crying...it just happens sometimes that i need to vent it out.
i just prayed very hard for u. i hope it succeeds. i never pray for myself. u know, i used to pray regularly but after my m/c i stopped that. Whats the use of a God who cannot take care of his children? its true he made the world but what has he been doing since then?
and u got some suggestions bout some 'charity' work. i dont know bout others but definitely i dont feel like doing charity for others when i myself m so depressed. no offences meant, but such a message could only come from a person who has never been through that pain.
take care, sonia. all of us are in the same boat...and i want to see u swim to the shore very soon...
lots of love,
pari. NP replied. Hi Sonia
I know it's hard when others have it and you don't.
I would pray for you.
may god bless you with a beautiful little baby soon.
take care
& good luck

Neha Priya replied. Hi
Sonia please do not lose hope as you say that there is a god there who listens to all our wants and needs but he will only give when the time is right. If you ever need to talk there are girls on this board who totally empathize and understand your situation as they are going through this themselves. Sonia you will make a wonderful mother oneday as you truly know how wanting a child means. How long have you been ttc and what is your age.If it has been more than a year please see a gyn. Sonia do not look at ppl around you who are having children and be upset think that oneday you will be in their footsteps too. Try to keep your mind of these issues this will make you less stressed- as my mother in law told me once there are alot of important things in the world that need our attention like charity work helping the needy-this makes us realise there are ppl less fortunante then us.At the end of the day you and ypur husbands relationship is important as even after the kids get older and leave you, it will be you 2 who will be spending your life together.
Priya.