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hey friends,
this is my story ....
i am married since last 2 and half years.but never really had a healthy relationship with my inlaws.I am in US and i stay with my inlaws.Husabnd is working and living in another state since 1 yrs.i was working so didnt want to leave the current job and join him last yr.
but i this period i have had major troubles with my Ils and during the beginning of the yr my parents were also involved and had a fight sort of with my IL's over the fone.
since that time nor my parents or Ils are on talking terms...not that they were close before to each other before the argument. my ILs have insulted my parents when they called us during my Weddign anniv due to which my parents are very upset. currently my mil has gone to india fo r a visit for a mth and my parents have not gone to see her..which is kinda pratical that after a fight they dont want to meet her but
she(mil) is very much frustrated with that and she pointed out tht to me while i talked to her over fone last week.
anothere thing is that i have now found a job where my husband is living in California and planning to move by last week of Jan

my problem is that how will i handle this situation because i know that once she is back she is gonna have a big fight with me over my parents no visiting them while they were in india and somehow i am moving by end of mth which i feel that inside she is not very happy with so she will try and pick up a fight on somethinng
please give me your advice on how to tactfully handle this situation ? because i dont want to give them a chance to say that our DIL fought with us when she was leaving.

thanks in advance for patiently listening to my story
friend replied.
Better u tell ur parents not to keep in touch with them even my parents do the same now they r very happy with no headach. U also tell them the same To not to bother when ur MIL goes to india.

We r having problem with my FIL as well as MIL. My parents dont keep in touch anymore.


anon replied. What does ur mil think, the president of USA ? When she lands in India, why should she be given a red carpet welcome by ur parents just because she is the son's mother landed from america. Look, either she is feeling guilty about fighting with ur parents or she thinks she is some god.

don't give importance to this issue, there are several more to come and were there before this. If u keep finding ways to solve them then ur mind won't have anything other than, mil, tact, mil, tact, mil, tact ... and then its a vicious circle.