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Role of in-laws:dear friends guide me

2005-11-09

Name: krishna recently it has dawned upon me that my IL are no different(1st time) This time my visit to my IL in india has really hurt meI never differentiated b/w my inlaws & my family so i was so shocked that they cook stories & try to brainwash my husband against me Luckily my hubby discussed it so there was no misunderstanding but to me there real face is exposed (feel cheated)What worries me is that might influence him in future too
my bil earns well but my fil wants us to support him as we are staying abroad(which to him means that we have struck a fortune)lil does he realise that its so expensive here with just one person earning All the things given by my parents have been given to my bil(car,..etc)& now wants a share in our house too(Latest request/ suggestion by my fil to my hubby)
with so many manipulations in mind no wonder they were filling my hubby's ears
please advise me

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2005-11-09

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Nothing to worry

krishna

Since ur husband told u about all the made up stories that his parents told him, he is very well aware of their character. Don't show your discontent about ur inlaws to him. That way he will think ur good. If you say things about his parents he surely will not like it. So pretend as if u like them. He himself will one day backfire them.

2005-11-09

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I understand

Hello Krishna,

People in India think that that we NRI's have it soo easy. They can't imagine the hardships we face here to run a decent household.
I think you should lovingly ask your husband to explain to his father that you two can't afford to support soo many people. I think if ur FIL knows how tough life is abroad only then he will understand your husband's position.

Take Care

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