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Role of in-laws:Pls help me..i need some solution otherwise die

2005-07-30

Name: Ishika hi,

I am very sad and getting fedup from my life today. There is no one around to give me solution..

We live in a joint family my problem is my husband starts beating himself whenever we have hot argument bcoz of his parents.

Actually, he also does this wn i disagree with him on his parents issue. Like i will say that did this for trouble me and he will say no they don't.

I feel really hurt and sorry for him as i love him very much. He is 30 year old man and we will plan a baby soon. Well frankly i see his this behaviour a total FRUSTRATION AND ESCAPISIUM from the present problem/issue.

I tried my level best to stop his this behaviour told him 100 times with love, anger even made him take my oath but wnever he wants to presurise me or i don't listen/agrees to him, he is back to this behaviour. Even one day out of frustration i also start slapping myself but later on i felt so made and guilty of myself. I am a cheerful person full of confidence but my inlaws are making my life Hell. I am trying to adjust with them in everyways but it seems they want to control us more than having respect from us.

Please help as i feel like dying today. I love my hubby so much and he is not ready to listen anything.

:-((

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2005-07-30

Name: simone
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relax

dont curse or punish urself for his nature of escapism.
1. remain quite for a few days and brings things back to normal and love in air.
2. strike a deal with him not to hurt himself as it hurts u more thn him.
3. tell him calmly to behave maturely rather thn hitting himself
4. remind him of his luv for u. try to overpower him psychologically. sorry for suggesting tactics
5. discuss some hypothetical friends cases with him sighting same problem as yours and ask for a solution
6. tell him to implement he same solution in ur house.
7. try to work out his problem of hurting by reading some text on psychology, may be something online.

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