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Role of in-laws:solution ??

2005-06-21

Name: vc hi,

My biggest problem in life is a married lady who knew my hubby before we got married, that lady always praises my hubby in front of me and my hubby will be blushing when she says something admiring and that lady does that purposely , that gets me on my nerves, i want to make her shut her mouth as well as make my hubby understand at the same time to be away from her, can u plz suggest me a dialogue to tell her when she does that the next time.

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hi,

My biggest problem in life is a married lady who knew my hubby before we got married, that lady always praises my hubby in front of me and my hubby will be blushing when she says something admiring and that lady does that purposely , that gets me on my nerves, i want to make her shut her mouth as well as make my hubby understand at the same time to be away from her, can u plz suggest me a dialogue to tell her when she does that the next time. dc904 replied. you try and have some self confidence - if she's flirting with him, let her - maybe it makes her feel good about herself - as long as he doesnt flirt back, what do you care? if you trust him and your marriage then it shouldnt be such a big deal. i say, get over it, esp if you're not seeing her every day or anything. Khushi replied. Dear vc,

I don't know what type of lady she is...but are you sure that she does \";this praising act\"; purposely? I mean, some people are a little frank when they talk...they say many things which they don't mean them seriously. I know many guys & girls who even touch you while talking and but they have no bad intentions.....they are just designed that way. So first you have to make sure whether this lady behaves the same way with others also or is it just with your husband . If you know for sure that she does it deliberately with your hubby, then you must take some action against her.

You can directly talk to her about this issue and let her know that it causing problems in your married life and she must stop all this nonsense. She herself is a married woman, I hope she will understand.

Or the other thing that you can do is \";tit for tat\"; although it doesn't sound a sensible approach but you can try- start praising her husband in front of her and makes it noticeable to your husband as well. And do it smartly..so that no one can raise fingers at you( the way she does). She will surely get a message and if she wants to save her married life, she will withdraw !

Let me know if it works or not ?

2005-07-27

Name: dc904
Subject:

i suggest

you try and have some self confidence - if she's flirting with him, let her - maybe it makes her feel good about herself - as long as he doesnt flirt back, what do you care? if you trust him and your marriage then it shouldnt be such a big deal. i say, get over it, esp if you're not seeing her every day or anything.

2005-06-21

Name: Khushi
Subject:

my advise

Dear vc,

I don't know what type of lady she is...but are you sure that she does \";this praising act\"; purposely? I mean, some people are a little frank when they talk...they say many things which they don't mean them seriously. I know many guys & girls who even touch you while talking and but they have no bad intentions.....they are just designed that way. So first you have to make sure whether this lady behaves the same way with others also or is it just with your husband . If you know for sure that she does it deliberately with your hubby, then you must take some action against her.

You can directly talk to her about this issue and let her know that it causing problems in your married life and she must stop all this nonsense. She herself is a married woman, I hope she will understand.

Or the other thing that you can do is \";tit for tat\"; although it doesn't sound a sensible approach but you can try- start praising her husband in front of her and makes it noticeable to your husband as well. And do it smartly..so that no one can raise fingers at you( the way she does). She will surely get a message and if she wants to save her married life, she will withdraw !

Let me know if it works or not ?

2005-06-21

Name: vc
Subject:

thanks

thanks a lot, for ur reply
that lady does this on purpose, she loves to gain attention,
once again thanks khushi

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