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I am a working since my baby was 5 months. She is 8 months old now. I have a lot of work to be done before i leave for office. Cooking for her as well as both of us,Bathing her, packing up her bag etc. etc. and the things could go on. I literally rush to office to be on time. I leave my babyat my moms place to take care of her. I dont rely on servants. My husband helps me in everything. Still i am very uneasy with myself. i get irritated and often end up hurting someone. Ive tried umpteen no. of time, somehow iv managed to compose myself now. However, i am very amxious all the time. If i talk to my mom or friends about it they tell me its a part of life and you have to cope up with it. & how they have managed things. I understand that. But at times i feel very lonely and think that nobody understands me. Can can some help me out? aneeta replied. I am also a working mother. Things are not perfect all the time but most of the time. It needs little bit of planning. I did not have any help for last one and a half years when my daughter simran was born. It was a new adjustment and lot's of demand on me. First this is establishing a routine to yourself and your baby. It's a good idea to bath the baby and yourself night before going to bed. Make sure you feed the baby well so she/he sleeps most of the night. Cook either on weekends or plan and prepare time consuming activities like cutting vegi's or grinding masalas on weekends. I prepared a simple weekly menu so I knew what I needed to do for next day. I usually cook curry's previous night itself. Pack your food night before and carry to work next day. Use paper plates, and disposable cups where you don't have to do the dishes every day.Keep it simple - cleaning, cooking or paying bills or whatever. Get beter organized. Waking up early is a best idea for that you also need to sleep early so you have energy to cope up with whatever the next day has to offer. Gook luck sanjoy Bhattacharya replied. Hi Auderly,
I am also an expecting father. My Wife is working. Our due date is July 12th. We are also facing the same situation what you are dealing with. Even I thing you are quite lucky that your moms place is near by but our parents are 1000 kms apert from us. we are very anxious that what we will do after birth. even we are very less faith on maids. I thing if you can share your experience with us it will be a great help for us even if we get some solution we will write back to you. Aparna replied. I exactly understand what u r going through and exactly understand why u feel lonely sometimes but I think at this stage in life u need to really keep your cool and be strong. At times when you feel low just meditate for 10 mins and u will feel rejuvinated. Try and keep yourself happy and think that there are too many things on your plate because that will make u feel worse. Hope this helps you. All the best!! Sulochana replied. Hi Audrey,

I am a working mother and we have 8 months old daughter, Akshada. We both are sailing in same boat. I was also facing the same problem, but then when I discussed this my hubby, we came to conclusion which really worked. Try to escalate your problem with your Husband. It will 100% solve your problem.

Don't get depressed. Taking care of both ends (house + work) exert us, but then when we see our darling laughing and coming to us, all our exertion vanishes. Try to think positively. It will really help. One thing we should keep in mind that taking care of our baby is our duty and responsibilty. Our aim should be to create good, healthy & proud citizen of our country. Then everything will work fine.

You can bring little bit change in your life (both for u and your hubby) by going out for a weekend alongwith your daughter. Yes, definitely you can take few good clues which other friends have suggested to cope up everything.

Also, if timing is set properly (* try to get up early), even you can spare some time for yourself also. And see the magic.

You can meditate whenever you get time to reduce stress.

What is your daughter name ? What is her DOB ? Give my love to her.

annie sam replied. You will think that I am talking like everybody else, but as they have right said it is a part of life. You are very lucky that yr husband helps you in everything and that yr baby is being cared after by yr mom. There are lots of women who leave their babies in the creche and have to cope with all the work without a helping hand. My suggestion is have fun with yr baby. Look at her expressions, the way she learns things, her small antics and I'm sure you will not have time to worry about anything else. Deepa replied. Dear Audrey
I am a working mother too. I have a 5 year old and some good advice on saving time in the mornings are:
1. plan on getting up 30 min. early than you estimate.
2. Cut down on preparing food by getting processed food like bread, bottled food
3. If you are not comfortable with #2 then prepare some food the night before cut the veggies and keep it refrigirated on sundays and saturdays.

4. If you can afford quit your job or take up part time work.

5. Employ some servernts to help you in the morning or in the evening.

6. Try to relax and give yourself a pep talk as to how you can manage better.
7. Cut down the work that takes more than half an hour to do it.

Best of Luck hope you can cope...
Deepa. Friend replied. Hi Audrey -

Don't worry, all new mom's and especially those of us who work have it hard. I live in the US so we can not rely on servants here. My child is over a year old and I am still going through what you are but here is what I do to make things easier in the morning.

1) Make and pack the food for everyone the night before. So all you have to do in the morning is take it out of the refrigerator and put it in a bag to take.

2) Sterlize all the bottles the night before. If you use formula, fill the bottles with water the night before and add the formula in the morning and mix and packt the bottles. If you are using milk, then just add the milk in the bottles the night before and all your have to do is pack them in the bag in the morning.

3) Lay out the clothes the night before. It may be easier to bathe your child at night so all you have to do is change the nappy and dress the baby in the morning.

4) They key here is do as much as you can the night before, it will be much easier on you in the morning, believe me.

You have to relax and enjoy these times, do as much as you can (the important things) leave the unimportant things undone for the weekend on later. Don't stress (I know easier said then done, but you have to try).

I hope I have helped, write back. Good luck.