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hello ladies, can all of u kindly share your views about how in laws should be [particularly mil] and how husbands should treat thier wives? i hope atleast a single mother in law sees this. may be it will bring some change in them. its just a trial. wont all of us feel happy if atleast one mil changes and if atleast one dil is benefitted by this? shruti replied. u r definitely right...
i too have been suffering Diligent replied. A mother in law should not have double standards for her daughter and her daughter in law.

A MIL has to stop gossipping with her daughter about her DIL. It is the most unhealthy thing to do, breeds animosity and hatred.

And the best thing to do nowwadays is to let your son move out of the house as soon as he gets married. Let he and his wife build his own life and even if they make mistakes or whatever they are learning. It is 2005 for crying out loud the era of extended families should end. bubly replied. Hi Tejmom,

I think a MIL should understand this before getting his son married that :

(1) Now when this new female (her DIL) will come in her son's life obviously his priorities will change.

(2) She should give enough space to DIL and her son to develop a repo as when she will be not there it is them who have to live their whole life together.

(3) If she is a smart MIL then she will help DIL to develop a good repo with her son and let her son be dependable on DIL not on her and she should decourage him if he does it. Saying that now u are married have wife and soon kids so start behaving like a mature man.

(4) See if a MIL does this that DIL will also have respect for her. This way they can work as a team at home to control things .They should divide their responsibilites at home to avoid conflict on who will do what.

(5) I have a friend of mine whose MIL is this way. Right from the begining she try to help my friend adjust in her house and develop a repo. Now my friend is always at her service bcoz of her this nature. As she know her MIL is their as a friend, an elderly woman (not mother of his huband) to comfort her not to give her competition.

I think this is how harmony can be maintaing in family. A MIL should not marry her son if she is so insecure and she should also get maturer thinking and develop her mind before she has a DIL to share her family.

This is my viewpoint.