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please help me vd,augustborn,diligent,and all others,
i have a severe inferiority complex for the way i look.i am 5.1 tall,medium built and not very fair just ok.i also have some pimples and i am very shy.i always feel inferior when i see beautiful woman.please help me. Diligent replied. For the makeover part I completely agree what august born suggests. We women must always keep ourselves beautiful and stick to a monthly beauty ritual.

For your pimples I would advise you to drink a lot of water at least 8 glasses daily and you can also add a few drops of lemon to the water. You will notice the difference in 2 weeks. Secondly, you must be having oily skin and there are tons of beauty products out there to help you. Stick to a daily face cleanse ritual without fail. Try to also go for a deep clean facial every 4-6 weeks.

As for clothes,stick to light colours since you say you are not that fair. Try to put a bit of makeup when you go out, just enough to enhance your looks. Most cosmetic shops will gladly help you to chose colours for your type of skin.

Lastly, when you go out hold your head up high and tell yourself I am beautiful and you will feel beautiful. If you do not feel confident nothing will help. Some of the most gorgeous women think they don't look good - it is a very female thing.

And my personal favourite, dab a bit of perfume everytime you go out. You will feel very sexy and confident. Hope this helps and all the best. vd replied. Hi,

I totally agree with augustborn.

- Hair cut is important.For the first time, go to a professional saloon. Even if it costs too much. And ask how to manage the cut.

- Be regular in waxing, nails, threading, pedicure and manicure. All these things, you can do yourself. Its just taking care of yourself.

- Clothes, I think, you should totally avoid, floral patterns, bold prints and very dark colours. Also, don't go in for horizontal stripes. Please try vertical lines, light shades, try wear plain clothes.

- DOn't go in for very loose fitting clothes but the ones which fits you. Please dont buy readymade salwar kameez etc as they are generally bigger as to your size.ALways get tehm tailored,

- Try some high heeled shoes but the ones you can manage confidently.TRy to get more feminine types, instead of platform shoes.

- Now, the part which you have to do.
When you are talking, please have a eye to eye contact with the opposite person. Also, look out on tv anchors, and others, the way they walk etc.
Try to stand straight, don't stoop and don't use your hands/actions while you are talking. In conversation, let other person finish the talking and then move on.

A public speaking course can be helpful.

There are many websites available for confidence building measures. Try them out. ANd get some good books. s replied. hello.....

A few years back (when in an all girls school) i used to feel the similar to how you feel, except for the pimples part. So can understand how u feel. my suggestions are,besides what Augustborn has said, invest in a good and comfortable pair of heeled slippers/shoes. It does a lot towards how u feel. It has done wonders for me. I walk straighter, feel better when i am able to talk to people eye to eye level instead of having to look up. and of course loads of confidence boosting measures like look into the mirror and say \";I look good\";, \";I have great hair/ eyes/figure\"; Just learn to appreciate yourself, and others will appreciate you too. augustborn replied. I will not embark on a lecture of \";Beauty is skin deep\";...blah blah though its true..

Well...not all of us are born beautiful and blessed with perfect bodies. So, its left to us to make the best of what we have. All those beautiful women whom you refer to are not 'God-made', infact most of them are 'man-made'..:)
1. A becoming hair cut(go to a good saloon and take advise) does wonders for a face.
2. Choosing the right outfits will make a huge difference. A well-cut but simple dress can do wonders. Ask your friends who have good taste in clothes to guide you. These days the ladies at the stores also give expert advise...
3. See a docter about your pimples...Its not a calamity to have them. Most of us have them at one time or the other. A docters advise should see you through that.
4. Use good quality make up which suits your skintone. Appropriate eyeliners/lipsticks and other accessories will do the trick...
5. Now comes the most important step, building of your confidence and self esteem. Walk with your back straight and look up. A good posture is the begining of self esteem. You have to truly believe in yourself. Maybe you could join some public speaking classes.
Trust me, the most popular women I have seen are the most plain ones. Its just how you conduct yourself. Frankly speaking, from the description you gave I am sure you are under-selling yourself...
Try saying \";I am the best\"; to yourself...it helps :)