hi VD....am the same friend of yours who is expecting her first kidd...and will be alone here in us ..with no help...as my edd is near..am loosing my hope a bit yesterday i was surfing some site...in that there was lots of info regarding popartam depression and postpartam blues..am so scared after reading that and feeleing low...am i will be able to cope all alone with my hubby?? lots of Q in my mind..yesterday night i coudnt sleep it was bad night :( i really donno why am getting this depressing thing now....i was confedent but somehow as the due date is near am suspecting will i be able to handle everything??
vd and all...please suggest me something ....do give me some tips regarding this matter...as i m first timer and i will be alone...do i need to do some kind of pre prepration?? what difficulty generally comes after baby's birth...i want to know and how to handle...please friends...give me some good suggestestion...i really need them......thanks a lot in advance...waiting for yours valuable reply.
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hi VD....am the same friend of yours who is expecting her first kidd...and will be alone here in us ..with no help...as my edd is near..am loosing my hope a bit yesterday i was surfing some site...in that there was lots of info regarding popartam depression and postpartam blues..am so scared after reading that and feeleing low...am i will be able to cope all alone with my hubby?? lots of Q in my mind..yesterday night i coudnt sleep it was bad night :( i really donno why am getting this depressing thing now....i was confedent but somehow as the due date is near am suspecting will i be able to handle everything??
vd and all...please suggest me something ....do give me some tips regarding this matter...as i m first timer and i will be alone...do i need to do some kind of pre prepration?? what difficulty generally comes after baby's birth...i want to know and how to handle...please friends...give me some good suggestestion...i really need them......thanks a lot in advance...waiting for yours valuable reply.
julyborn replied. Hi,
First of all congrats for soon to be mom.....Don't worry.....
1. Stop thinking negative things as your date is coming near....everything will be fine....U r having your baby in a country where everythin seems easy...Here doctora r nice ,the nurses r good.....before u get discharge from hospital after delivery, they will give u all the numbers if u need help...like 24 hour nurse number if u have problem with breast feeding....or any other matter...they will come to your house and teach u......
2.try reading the book \";What to Expect Frist Year\";....Also try and make arrangements of getting food initially...if yours a normal delivery u will be able to do your nirmal work soober....but if its C-section, you will have restrictions....
3. see if your hubby can get Paternity leave,.....some companies give that...that will be a lot of help to u...
4. Don't be afraid to ask any question to doctor or nurse, even after coming home....they will anwser all your question till u r satisfied....
5. Ask your mom on phone as to whatu should or what u should not eat while u r breast feeding.....
6. ofcourse....diapers,formula etc...make things very easy....
7. And last but not the least .....we r always here for u...U will do just fine....
Just remember ...think all positive and good things...listen good music....and u and ur baby will be fine
Don't forget to tell us wether its a boy or girl!!!!
V1 replied. You know what my doc said when my baby was due ...... \";Women have been doing this alone for centuries without our help . so just relax \";
One thing I want to suggest - if you can manage to get food for 15 days from outside or ask a neigbor to cook or from restaurant tiffin etc then you will be more free to take care of the baby .
Keep smiling ! Dont worry !!
vd replied. Hi a friend
Cheer up. You will be a proud mother very soon. Nothing to worry.
Doctors are there, your husband is around and above all have faith in GOD.
Keep everything ready- as senorita has said
baby clothes, wipes, towels, diapers, blanket, tub etc. Also your clothes for a week, Most important camera and videocamera, something to munch, also keep some feeding bottles ready. Your doctor must have given u a list.
keep doctors and hospital numbers handy.
Please stop reading about depression, instead start watching some comedies, some religious music if u like.
U can go out have nice food, pep up . Nothing to worry. It happens to almost everywoman in this world.
It will feel divine once u have your child in your hands. I am waiting for sweets.
First 3 months baby is going to sleep most of the time and u can sleep too. Even u do not have to worry much for his food, breast milk wud be enough. SO no stressing.
Any doubts - please talk to doctor. You have good books for you.You are not alone. There is a good health system to take care of you and God is there above all of us.
Cheer up, have a bath, it is just a matter of time and you will not be alone.
By the way - HAve u decided on the name?
senorita replied. Hi,
I am mother of a 6 month old baby. I know exactly how u are feeling , since i too was feeling this couple of months back.
U will be feeling this more since , u & ur hubby have to handle alone. For my delivery my mom had come from india , but u know i was feeling low & depressed , that what will happen if she does not get her visa.
Remember this , GOD & UR hubby are always there for you.
Life totally changes after u have a baby...Try to get things done well in advance ...get some baby clothes
2) get diapers
3)get the crib ready
4) some baby wipes
5) nursing bras/pads
5 Bath tub
If u think there will be few more things...
My suggestion :::
Try to sleep when ur baby sleeps
Keep ur fridge stuffed with some ready made food ( as u both will be busy with the baby, u won;t find time to cook)
Take proper rest for 40 days atleast
Ask friends for help
I hope & pray that u have a normal delivery ( since recovery is really fast & easy)
yeah , some feel postpartum depression..Thats due to harmonal changes..but it usually disappers within a few weeks...If u feel Too depressed..contact ur doc ..depression after delivery is pretty normal...& FOR SURE can be cured...so don;t worry so much...
All tne best for ur delivery & give us the good news soon...
we are always here for you ...
senorita
2005-03-10
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Name: julyborn Subject: Just be calm
Hi,
First of all congrats for soon to be mom.....Don't worry.....
1. Stop thinking negative things as your date is coming near....everything will be fine....U r having your baby in a country where everythin seems easy...Here doctora r nice ,the nurses r good.....before u get discharge from hospital after delivery, they will give u all the numbers if u need help...like 24 hour nurse number if u have problem with breast feeding....or any other matter...they will come to your house and teach u......
2.try reading the book \";What to Expect Frist Year\";....Also try and make arrangements of getting food initially...if yours a normal delivery u will be able to do your nirmal work soober....but if its C-section, you will have restrictions....
3. see if your hubby can get Paternity leave,.....some companies give that...that will be a lot of help to u...
4. Don't be afraid to ask any question to doctor or nurse, even after coming home....they will anwser all your question till u r satisfied....
5. Ask your mom on phone as to whatu should or what u should not eat while u r breast feeding.....
6. ofcourse....diapers,formula etc...make things very easy....
7. And last but not the least .....we r always here for u...U will do just fine....
Just remember ...think all positive and good things...listen good music....and u and ur baby will be fine
Don't forget to tell us wether its a boy or girl!!!!
2005-03-10
#2
Name: V1 Subject: Just relax and smile
You know what my doc said when my baby was due ...... \";Women have been doing this alone for centuries without our help . so just relax \";
One thing I want to suggest - if you can manage to get food for 15 days from outside or ask a neigbor to cook or from restaurant tiffin etc then you will be more free to take care of the baby .
Keep smiling ! Dont worry !!
2005-03-10
#3
Name: vd Subject: Cheer up mommy dear
Hi a friend
Cheer up. You will be a proud mother very soon. Nothing to worry.
Doctors are there, your husband is around and above all have faith in GOD.
Keep everything ready- as senorita has said
baby clothes, wipes, towels, diapers, blanket, tub etc. Also your clothes for a week, Most important camera and videocamera, something to munch, also keep some feeding bottles ready. Your doctor must have given u a list.
keep doctors and hospital numbers handy.
Please stop reading about depression, instead start watching some comedies, some religious music if u like.
U can go out have nice food, pep up . Nothing to worry. It happens to almost everywoman in this world.
It will feel divine once u have your child in your hands. I am waiting for sweets.
First 3 months baby is going to sleep most of the time and u can sleep too. Even u do not have to worry much for his food, breast milk wud be enough. SO no stressing.
Any doubts - please talk to doctor. You have good books for you.You are not alone. There is a good health system to take care of you and God is there above all of us.
Cheer up, have a bath, it is just a matter of time and you will not be alone.
By the way - HAve u decided on the name?
2005-03-10
#4
Name: senorita Subject: Take it easy
Hi,
I am mother of a 6 month old baby. I know exactly how u are feeling , since i too was feeling this couple of months back.
U will be feeling this more since , u & ur hubby have to handle alone. For my delivery my mom had come from india , but u know i was feeling low & depressed , that what will happen if she does not get her visa.
Remember this , GOD & UR hubby are always there for you.
Life totally changes after u have a baby...Try to get things done well in advance ...get some baby clothes
2) get diapers
3)get the crib ready
4) some baby wipes
5) nursing bras/pads
5 Bath tub
If u think there will be few more things...
My suggestion :::
Try to sleep when ur baby sleeps
Keep ur fridge stuffed with some ready made food ( as u both will be busy with the baby, u won;t find time to cook)
Take proper rest for 40 days atleast
Ask friends for help
I hope & pray that u have a normal delivery ( since recovery is really fast & easy)
yeah , some feel postpartum depression..Thats due to harmonal changes..but it usually disappers within a few weeks...If u feel Too depressed..contact ur doc ..depression after delivery is pretty normal...& FOR SURE can be cured...so don;t worry so much...
All tne best for ur delivery & give us the good news soon...
we are always here for you ...
senorita
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