Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

hello archie,
Thanks for ur reply. We r trying to be relaxed and taking it easy this whole week. We r abstaining from intercourse this week, so that we can take a break and start from next week. We don't want to stress ourselves this month.
When I got my periods this month I was ok. Everything began for both of us when one of our friends announced that they r expecting and it was a surprise for them. We were fine with it on that day. Next day we started feeling sad. We were happy for them but when we thought about it we were so frustrated. I guess that is all part of ttc. We r doing fine now, just taking things as it comes. It is not jealousy or something. Just that we were feeling sad about the whole process.
I just want to answer ur question, when we come to know that I am ovulating, we feel pressurised and want to have sex for the sake of it. I think from now on I should just ignore and forget about my ovulation. Thanks anyways for ur advice. We will have intercourse as adviced by you.
Archie replied. Dear Wannabeparents:

One of my reason to be on this forum is to make sure people do not go through same things that we went through our many have been. And that's watching/monitoring every single symptoms that's associated to ovulation and pregnancy. This at time can be not very nice.
I may have sounded little contradicting and you may wonder what are you saying Archie that I should not pay that much attention to most important facts like Ovulatio, where whole conception rotates?
Yes, Ovulation is important but if you monitor close will help you planning intercourse and may enhance success rate. But not necessarily it will always work positive, it can work negative, particularly in those who get anxious and very depressed with failure. These people are likely to get more stressed at the time of ovulation and likely to work against success, indirectly delaying.
Therefore knowing ovulation is immensely important but at the same time keeping it calm is utmost essential, as well.

I do not think your husband should know when you ovulate. He should be doing things normally. You will know somehow as you will feel some symptoms. But if you try to keep quiet and not to reveal to your husband he is likely to best of his sperm quality and quantity, always a relative and compared with his stressed situation.

I am with you, about your feelings and friends good news. Congratulations to them. No, you are not feeling any strange. It's very normal. I totally understand that you ar enot jealous about them, you are happy for them.

Do not stop BBT. This will help you plan your intercourse, provided this is not going to add to your anxiety.

Make it on CD13 or CD14.

Good luck.
Archie