Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hello Everybody,

I am married for over 2 and a half years now and having a real good time. However since last 20 days I am facing this problem.

I am not able to get the hard on -- arousement while having sex. I dont know, I feel that all of a sudden the sex excitement and feeling within me has vanished.

Though I feel it could be because of stress and work pressure at office. Also possibly because we are trying for kid and has not succeed for quite some time as I am going thru the treatment.

I do get aroused when I read sex stories and I do admire women figure. But the hard on dies very fast.

I am confussed and worred as I find it hard to believe that I who was very active in sex and use to have high fantasies is not geeting the mood for sex.

Has anyboxy here faced similar situation any time during married life.

Do share your views and suggestion to get out of this.

Regards

Leigh replied. I think it is the stress you are facing at work and with trying to conceive child. When you are laying with wife, dont think of anything other then that moment and concentrate on the feelings you are having towards her. Never once let work or child come to mind, just relax and enjoy eachother. This problem also faces women too, so talk to your wife and see how she is feeling also. If she is feeling at odds about conceiving also talk to her and share your feelings and let her know it is ok. Good things come to those who wait.......that is why so many have twins!!
I wish you the best and I hope you get back to enjoying married life!
Remember, only think about the moment.
I am female and I can tell you the one thing that gets things going when we are down is talking during it all. Dont talk mean or bad, just tell eachother how you feel about eachother....it will help keep your mind in the moment!
Take care and God bless