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Hi have any of you got the same help and care in bringing up your kids from your in-laws as your husbands sister got from them?my question is why do the same people behave so differently with their sons children and their daughters children?As grandsparents they should love their granchildren equally-be it from their sons side or their daughters side.This is not only my personnel experiance but from my colleques experiance as well.Any comments? myniki replied. Though i too dont have that personal experience since my husband is the only son, i guess to in-laws its more line daughter-in-laws child vs. daughters child!
Of course this is terrible and one should love each grand-child equally, but with some people till they learn to respect daughter-in-laws and of course vice-versa, this will be an issue!   bahu replied. My experience is the same. I wish in-laws behaved the same with all their grnadchildren. Most importantly, they should be ready to help their kids in equalm proportion, daughter or son. j replied. I feel we compare the treatment from wrong point of view. In fact our in laws love my children more than their daughters children so they always try to correct the mistakes in the way we upbring our kids. Just take it positively, after all what our elders expect from us a good well behaved and brilliant grandson or granddaughter. It is true in every home that the daughters children may be treat better it is just because all parents know that their daughter will not be able to stay with them for a long time so when they are there with the kids old parents try to shower them with lots of affection and love which ultimately the daughter in law feels double standard, but if we could understand the deep affection our in laws have for their sons children I think all the problems will be solved, just be positive and let the poor old in laws love their grandsons and daughter the way they want, why we interfere in between grand parents and grand children!!