Talking to children about
puberty and adolescence will help them go through this phase smoothly. Learn
when and how to talk to children about puberty right away.
Some parents may find embarrassing to talk to kids about puberty and
sexuality, but remember, the best place for kids to learn these is their home.
Anyone can teach them about puberty in a few hours, but if proper context is provided
over a period of years by you then your kids can have a clear idea about it and
both of you would be confident and comfortable enough to deal with puberty
when it comes.
When Is the
It is always better to start talking to kids about puberty and adolescence much
before they start undergoing it. If you start talking about puberty to your
children early, then they would have a good foundation of ideas and can expect
changes in their mind and body when the right age would come. Also, they would
be under your shadow, so they can always ask you any questions that may arise
when they hit puberty. If you tell them late when they already hit puberty,
then they may not be able to balance so much of information and experience them
at the same time. Give them some time – start talking early!
Girls usually enter puberty earlier than boys – maybe a year or two.
Usually they get their first periods when they are 12 or 13, which means about
2 years after their puberty starts. In few exceptional cases, they may get
their periods at the age of 9 or maybe as late as 15 years. But, being a
parent, it is your responsibility to make them aware of the upcoming physical
changes they are going to face – both internally and externally. So the right time
to let girls know about puberty is at 9 to 10 years of age, or else they may
get frightened at the location and sight of the menstrual blood. Although,
parents start talking to children about puberty at a particular age educating
them about puberty should not be a sudden process but it should be a gradual
What to Say
When the right time comes, you have to let your girls know about
periods – why does it happen and how and when? Let them know that their body
would become more rounded, with proper curves at the waist. You must also tell
your girls that their
breasts will begin to develop, and they would get underarm hair and pubic hair.
Other noteworthy information they must know are, there is also a chance of
getting acne and their body odour will start changing.
For boys, puberty starts a little later than girls. So you can speak
to them about puberty at the age of 11-12 years. Boys may have their first ejaculation;
even before they look older, so before they begin to develop sexually, you must
let them know what they should expect.
What to Say
You must help them identify their sexual organs and that the organs would
grow larger as they grow. Their voice will become deeper. Their muscles would
grow bigger and they will grow facial hair, underarm hair, and pubic hair. Do
not be shy talking about wet dreams that they may get and ejaculate during
sleep. Also, you must tell them that they will sweat more and get acne when
they reach puberty.
Kids about Their Bodies
Firstly it is essential to teach kids to respect their bodies. It is
also necessary to teach them to keep their private parts clean. Teach them the
right and safe ways to get rid of unwanted hair. Encourage them to wear
comfortable and clean undergarments. The most important is to educate them
about the good touch and bad touch. Talk to them freely so they will not
hesitate to come back to you when they are facing any problem.
Be the right source of information and do not talk fantasies and unreal things.
Tell the truth – let them know about sexuality and other bodily
changes they would expect during puberty. It is important to clear all their
doubts. This will not rob their innocence – it is the attitude that changes
innocence, not the information. Do not let them come running to you for
explanation – provide all the information way ahead of time.
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