There are certain qualities which every parent must imbibe and demonstrate in front of their kids. Exhibiting such things will help kids to learn important virtues. Here are top 10 things which your kids should know about you and which you must genuinely imbibe.
As a parent you are probably aware of the huge responsibility you possess towards your kids. Your words, actions and behaviour will have a high degree of influence on the kind of people your kids will turn out to be. To give your kids the best kind of upbringing that they deserve you have to start building a solid moral and ethical foundation for them. This obviously starts with you telling them some important things about yourself
1. You Love Your Kids
The first thing that your children need to know about you is that you love them unconditionally come what may. This basically means that you will not stop loving your kids even if they commit mistakes, fail to live up to expectations, do not do well in exams and extracurricular activities or generally mess up. This knowledge of unconditional love will allow your kids to open up to you about their problems without feeling scared or pressurized.
2. You Love Your Partner
The greatest gift you can give your children is the safety and security of a loving home. Show your love and commitment towards your spouse in a free and genuine way so that kids are assured that their parents love each other and their home is stable and happy. This will also teach your kids a lot about the beautiful and valuable bond of marriage.
3. You Respect Your Elders
Children are not born with a moral compass and do not automatically learn values. You as a parent have to demonstrate your respect towards your elders if you want to get respect later in life from your kids. Always speak of elders with love and respect and treat them with dignity in front of your children. This will teach them a lot more than any moral discourse on respect.
4. You Work Hard
Kids learn the value of hard work from their parents and subsequently pick up life skills which prepare them for success. Show your kids that you work hard to provide well for your family and this quality of hard work is important in the context of success. When your kids see you putting in a lot of effort they will also learn to put in effort in their social and professional endeavours.
5. You Own Up to Your Mistakes
Every one messes up once in a while. But what really matters is that when you mess up you have the courage to own up to your mistakes. When you do this visibly in front of your children they learn that it is important to own up to the mistakes one commits in life. Consequently they will grow up to be more responsible human beings.
6. You Are Approachable
Let your kids know that you are always there for them in times of emergencies, difficulties, crisis and tough emotional times. Build open lines of communication so that children can come and talk to you about their problems instead of feeling scared about how you are going to react. This will save your kids from straying or getting into serious trouble.
7. You Have Faith in God
Abiding lasting faith in a power that is greater that the earth will help your kids tide over difficult times and challenges that life is sure to throw at them. The faith in God or the almighty is also something that kids will pick up from you. Pray with your children every day at bed time or teach them to say Amen or Grace at meals. When kids see how deeply you believe in God they will learn to share this belief with you.
8. You Will Not Take Shortcuts
Often in life adults take unethical shortcuts like little convenient lies, small bribes and petty manipulations just to make life easier. Children learn from observation and consequently pick up all the wrong values. Demonstrate to your kids that you do not like taking unethical shortcuts and compromising on your integrity. This will help build their value system.
9. You Are Not Afraid Of Failure
When you expect your kids (or yourself) to always win, you unknowingly set up very wrong expectation levels for kids. In life it is very important to learn how to handle failure and your children are going to learn to handle failure gracefully by following your example. Show your kids that you are not afraid to get up and brush aside and failure and start trying again. This will teach them perseverance.
10. You Love Life!!
Laugh freely. Play games with your kids. Celebrate the joy of being healthy and alive. Teach children to appreciate the rich beauty of life and nature. Kids often inherit the love for life from their parents and it is arguably one of the most important things to communicate to your children.
Now that you know all about what things your kids should know about you start communicating today!!
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