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The 20 Lies Parents Should Avoid Telling Their Kids



Even though intentions of parents are good, there are some phrases or lies that do more harm than good to kids. Read on to learn about the top 20 lies that parents should avoid telling their kids.

If you ask any parent whether he lies to his children, he will automatically say no. But there are some common lies that we use as parents for kids which are actually quite destructive. Here are top 20 lies that parents should avoid telling their kids for their sake and sake of their kids also.

1. “Eating candy will give you acne”

You know that this is not true. Instead you should educate your child about eating candy in limited quantity and why eating too many candies is not good.

2. “Sitting close to TV will make you blind”

Substitute this by saying that watching too much TV damages eyesight.

3. “Lying will make your nose grow longer”

Telling this will not help to break the habit of lying in children. You should explain the reasons why lying is not good. You should tell your kids that lying will not solve their problems. Lying can increase their trouble and if they tell the truth they can get help from you.

4. “I don’t have money”

Many parents often say “I don’t have money” when kids demand for a toy or some eatable. You should make the child understand why he or she is not buying the toys or a candy for the child. That particular toy is not suitable for his or her age or maybe it is not worth buying that toy. Whatever the reason is, you must make the kid understand without lying.

5. “Food is very tasty, just eat it”

All of us have likes and dislikes regarding food and so do children. You should consider this to a limit and educate your children about nutrition and health. On the other hand, if the food is not tasty you should accept the fact and you should never force your child if he or she does not want to eat.

6. “The toy shop is closed”

Kids always get attracted towards new toys and there is nothing wrong in that. If you think that the toy is useless or there is some reason behind not buying the toy, explain that to your kid.

7. “If you don’t come, I will leave you in the crowd”

This is ridiculous. Even if you dream that your kid is lost in crowd you wake up immediately because of that nightmare. Find some other way to convince your child to come along with you or wait for few minutes for your child, if possible.

8 “You are adopted”

Even if you say this out of some frustration or just simply for fun, this can have great negative impact on your child’s mind.

9. “We picked you up from a dustbin”

This is actually mean spirited. This simple looking lie can affect your child’s feelings and emotions largely.

10. “Monster ate your toy”

If you do not have time to help him find his favourite toy, speak the truth. You can help him some other time and ask him to play with another toy for the time being. It is also possible that you threw the toy out of anger and now you are lying to your child.

11. “If you don’t sleep monster will take you away”

The child will not be able to sleep if you tell him this. After all, he will be afraid of the monster and pretend to sleep, but not in reality. Instead, spend some time and calm your child down so that he sleeps comfortably and peacefully. You can also tell a story at bedtime.

12 “If you don’t listen, I will take you to the doctor to give injection”

Showing the fear of injection is not a way to deal with the tantrums of a child. The child will develop a misconception regarding the injections and doctors.

13. “Daddy is going to see the doctor”

Your child is concerned about where daddy is going, let him know the truth and say that it is important for daddy to leave now so that he can reach office on time.

14. “Dog ate your ice-cream”

There is no harm is accepting that you ate the ice-cream you kept for your child. Sometimes parents can have temptations that become irresistible.

15. “Your eyes will fall out if you cry”

Crying can make eyes swell and the child will feel fatigued. You child may get concerned about his eyes if you say that. Instead, calm your child down and give him the emotional support he needs at that moment.

16. “Only adults can eat that”

Your child may demand for junk food sometimes by watching you eating that. You cannot stop your child from eating junk food if you are doing so. You should be a good role model for your child. By eating unhealthy in front of your child you are setting a bad example. If you want your child to eat healthy and nutritious food, you must eat healthy along with your child.

17. “I promise”

You might say this statement perhaps to calm your child down or to stop any conversation which seems endless. However, always keep in mind that broken promises hurt and so say that only if you are 100% sure that you will keep your promise or just say that you will try your best to fulfil his desire.

18. “I don’t know”

This is the common lie which parents tell their kids particularly when they ask them about their bodies or about sexuality. Parents should always be open to their kids about such issues because if kids face any problem they will not hesitate to talk to parents openly on these issues. If parents do not answer, kids may seek help from outsiders which can be risky.

19. “I’m on diet”

Parents often say this if they do not want to eat what they have cooked for their children. To encourage good eating habits in kids, you must cook healthy and eat healthy with your kids.

20. “Cracking your knuckles will give you arthritis”

Although this is a disgusting habit, it is not good to connect it with a disease.

The above statements make kids stop trusting their internal guidance system and they give up easily when things get harder in life.  Also, if your child watches you telling lie, he will develop the habit of doing the same as soon as he will have senses.

Why should parents never lie to their kids? How to explain the truth gracefully to kids? What are the negative effects of lying on children? Discuss here.

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Lovely Mom.3 years ago
Though I agree on your point no.8, you could have added a line - if the child is biological then do not say this. But for adopted child parents must tell the child from the day one or at the earliest. The whole point is to be open with the child and treat it as an adult even if he/she is a small baby.
 
 
 
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Kshama.3 years ago
Parents should never lie in front of kids or ask them to lie. Lying is very bad and a difficult habit to get rid of.
 
 
 
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Seeta.3 years ago
When parents lie to their kids, kids also get into the habit of lying.
 
 
 
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Ashka.3 years ago
Sometimes it is difficult to convince kids and parents are forced to lie.
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